are women always this evil

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Nah man — she’s not evil. This one’s just complicated.

Here’s what probably happened: when your friend cheated on her, she felt hurt, rejected, and alone, and you — being someone she already knew and trusted — felt safe. So that night wasn’t about flirting or romance at first; it was her trying to find comfort and feel seen again. The emotional stuff, the closeness, the vulnerability — it was real in that moment, but it might not have been about starting something new. More like emotional release after being betrayed.

Then, after she calmed down, reality probably hit her — she might’ve thought, “Crap, that was my ex’s friend,” or “Did I just overshare?” or “Is he expecting something now?” So instead of facing the awkwardness, she went silent. That’s pretty normal teenage self-protection, not malice.

Here’s the key thing though: you didn’t do anything wrong. You gave her a good memory on a bad night, you showed her kindness, and you were genuine — that’s rare and worth being proud of.

If you still like her, you don’t need to overthink it or chase her. Just act normal at school — say hey if you cross paths, maybe joke about something casual. If she wants to reconnect, she’ll take that opening. And if not, don’t sweat it — sometimes you’re just a chapter in someone’s healing story, not the next relationship.

Want me to tell you how to text her again without seeming pushy or weird about it?

It's a complicated one and most answers are from perspective. I wouldn't say they are "evil" per se but some actions they do definitely don't qualify them as nice at all. Sorry that happened to you but it is what it is. That's what women do most.

The only crazy thing is this story you write and post it in vlr for it to be responded by some Indian guy or Asian guy who barely speak English smoothly and either getting trolled advice or God advice

Shes probably too scared to approach u again now, atm she felt confident and now shes scared ur gonna reject her or smth
Just a guess, hope it works out w u 2

you need to talk to more women if ur feeling that way about her so quickly, trust me. also dw about her, she prolly talking to her ex still n maybe even others, it’s not a big deal, she was done wrong so she’s doing things to get over it, it happens.

What I don’t get is — you said you got a f*cking job, but you’re still in school??

unrelated to you main point but im actually also living with my grandparents in my senior year while my parents have moved to a different state. kinda weird coincedence ig.

So what?

To answer the title: no lol
But for your thing: bro fucking text her or reach out first to her????? Wtf are you doing, she already made the first, second, and third move lol, you can’t expect her to do everything without reciprocating effort

Also u gotta understand, she just got cheated on, you can’t be assuming she is ready to get back into everything immediately esp someone who was friends with her ex. You don’t know where she’s at and what she views you as at this time

No offense but what were you expecting? She deadass JUST got cheated on by your friend and nothing even happened between yall romantically why tf is she being called evil when all that happened was you caught feelings

She was vulnerable and hurt, so she just wanted to get comfort from somebody she knows. She didn’t play with your feelings, you are the one who brought her to a romantic place, she might not even be interested in you pal. I don’t think she’s evil at all. Let the lady adjust and heal from getting cheated on. Besides, why would you want to be a rebound?

Also, when you say she hasn’t talked to you, do you mean she hasn’t texted you (and ur waiting for a text) or is she ignoring you.

Make the move, text her about Tacolilla and LEV. She gonna fall for u faster than demon1 from his prime

yes

allat

yes, all women are evil. all men are evil too. tis life

but yeah sounds like she wasn't in the best mental state and doesn't really like you? either way don't stoop down to being a rebound, she was being inconsiderate and using you. good luck with other people

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Humans always try to benefit from other humans. This is not gender related. Im not trying to white knight all women because some evil ones exist and i cant really tell if shes one of them but id assume she just went to you because she was emotionally unstable and you were the first person who came to her mind

Anyways you shouldnt try to date someone who came freshly out of a relationship anyway

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Idk abt the title but instead of a big ass response , i will say confidently theres a 90% chance it actually didnt mean anything aand was just like an emotional time for her and the talking was more of a venting session, she just wanted to be seen and heard, all that flirting really didnt mean anything tbh , you kinda did the right thing by just letting the possibility of her being with you simmer in the open, so if she actually meant it, she will take the opportunity or she wont

allat

not reading allat

On today's episode of bullshit that never happened

I haven’t seen anything outside of movies yet there is one case happened in India you could search it up it happened during start of this year also media covered it pretty much so you shouldn’t be having a hard time

how evil

i mean, considering she just got cheated on, i'm sure she just wants some time before going into something else and that can be pretty difficult to communicate especially considering what you're saying about how it went. maybe things moved too fast when she didn't want them to and now is closing off because of that. "women are evil" is incel speak so dont be going around saying that, my advice maybe reach out just to ask if she wants to hang out again another time on her terms just so she feels comfortable, and let her know you're there for her to talk to. she may just want someone to be close to and that's perfectly fine.

allat..

You're a good guy, I like you. Girls and guys are just wired differently so take your time and be wise as you learn more about girls throughout time and experience. If anything, you deserve a greater girl. She'll come around to you. And I also agree with what cirruss said as well.

I would lie if I said that I understand whatever you just typed but good luck

all humans are evil. it's time to make your move.

You're still young, these kinds of things happen a lot in relationships when you are young. It hurts and I'm not gonna say that there's a fix, but genuinely as you get older and people get more mature emotionally you will find someone who you will connect with and being with them will be easy. Just focus on yourself, you have a lot of time to meet cool people. It sucks right now, but you will learn a lot about yourself and grow from this experience. It's really easy in these online spaces to just hear a bunch of disingenuous shit on either side, "men are trash"/ "women are evil" are 2 sides of the same coin. People are shit to each other a lot, and it's not always out of malice, but more just emotional immaturity. Keep your head up brother, there are plenty of other people to meet outside of your school, ur whole life ahead of u mang.

She isn't evil but she isn't emotionally stable at the moment nd you should not fall into this destructive bonding by becoming her emotional crutch . It will harm her personal growth nd you will destroy yourself trying to save her trust me it only leaves trauma at the end it never works .

I understand your attachment to her very well but for her good nd your own good don't get into push nd pull cycle if she returns now after being cold to you it's going to be toxic. Be a friend nd help as a friend nothing else nothing else at all at this stage

if she likes you, she prob wants you to talk to her first. if not, maybe she is just trying to process things alone

lmao

I wish you the best my friend. From what it sounds like I would assume she used you to feel better, as simple as that. There is no true love or affection she just knows you more than most guys because you were friends with her ex, so she needed someone that she could talk to and vent to and you did it perfectly, unfortunately I think she will most likely just move on to another guy soon or something like that.

id assume she probably just overshared and regrets letting you know that much and wants to kinda just forget about everything

in terms of it being right after she was cheated on dont blame her for not wanting to get with you after something that shitty just happened to her, for her it could just be you helping her rather than something romantic, again not like she probably even wants to remember that day/period of time anyway

This is the equivalence of a random girl online saying all men are trash. Don't be like them.

You were her boy for the night. You are in high school, but if you go to a bar or club when you are older and find a hookup for the night, its sometimes the same deal. You will have a great vulnerable time, and then the next day the magic is gone. "Single" life, or "city girl/boy" life. You are in high school tho... a bit odd. Sorry that happened to you

she needs someone to take her emotions, happened to me aswell when my bf cheated on me, we have an urge to cling to someone, but in the morning we usually realise what we’ve done and try to forget about it

Just move on, man. That's how life works, so there's nothing to worry about. She may be the first girl you really felt attatched to, but she won't be the only one, nor the last.

lock in bro

Edit: tbh bro the whole world is fucked, I'm not telling you throw the baby out with the bathwater but take it as a lesson. If you feel something for her than reach out and try to remain in contact and see where it goes, if not than realize you were taken advantage of in a vulnerable moment and it happens GG go next keep your head up shit happens.

in short yes stay away from those hideous creatures

allat

just step up ur game

The short answer is no, not all women are evil

125 words before your first period. I’m not the grammar police, but if you want long posts to be read you have to use punctuation and good formatting. Reading ramble-ons is tough and not many people care to do it

Bro I beg you if you're gonna type out a block of text break it into paragraphs

try being more direct dawg, communicate if u want sumn to happen

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I'm not gonna lie I read through the whole thing and also the comments with more context. My guess is that she was feeling very hurt by her boyfriend seeing her as low value and cheating on her and proceeded to go to her boyfriend's friend to try and make him jealous and also probably take her mind off things and feel valued again. I am not surprised she hasn't talked to you much or at all since because it's a very awkward situation she might regret and feel bad about doing that to you since it was probably very spontaneous. Generally you just got used to make her boyfriend feel bad and for her to distract herself and while I think it sucks you caught feelings in that moment you can at least know that you HOPEFULLY made her boyfriend feel like shit for being a loser and cheating which is fully deserved and you also made her feel better in a bad period of her life.

Final quick comment I wanted to say is that I think posting "are women evil" as bait is pretty low and it makes me a bit concerned about how the story is portrayed considering you already saying you "don't really think abt girls like that... I go to parties and will flirt with some but nothing serious" and also that "the girls here are pretty shit even in highschool." I understand you're a kid but these are human beings bro 😭 I would consider trying to be a bit more respectful to the women in your life because I promise many are a lot kinder than you're portraying them.

lol so i did something retarded. she texted me like 30 minutes ago apologizing for the way she was acting towards me and asked if we could hang out again and even tho i know ima get hurt more than likely i still said yes cuz i couldnt help myself, i did say that if she reached out first tho i would answer but i didnt expect a full apology and even her asking to eat dinner with my family.

Seze Unaktu will raizo rlly finominal.