Am i like the only one who hate his country ? like i hate germany so much i hate the people the overall system the cities everything i feel like there is nothing good in this shit ass country
hate on own country
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UZBEKISTAN #1
WE COULD HAVE WON AGAINST PORTUGAL BUT REF IS CORRUPT
DM ftw lwk, that shit is resale worthy, could make big bucks from reselling that shit.
its hard doing that plus i would need a license which i cannot legally get atm
yea thats a good part doesnt really affect me to tho bc i dont go in to the actuall nature that much but yea your right
Du musst dein Leben leben. Wenn du Deutschland verlassen willst, musst du das tun.
portugal only got one yellow card during that game, it should've been way more, they were literally fouling our players left right and centre
you cannot be talking with the turkiye flag, yall were boasting that it was going to be an easy win against australia. Yall couldn't even win against Paraguay.
not to mention our coach is a guy who has no international experience and didn't even qualify us to the world cup in the first place
we only lost by that much because of the goal being disallowed, fayzullaev literally said it himself in the post match interview.
sit down
bro this has to be some of the most cope i have ever read holy shit. and why are you bringing up turkey like i said they were gonna win it all. 60 shots 30 on target not 1 goal its emberassing. but i take that and dont cope about some refs.
im not coping, im just saying that you shouldn't be in a position to talk
Yall couldn't even win against Paraguay
Don't be disrespectful bro they're better than you guys. I'm all for being bullish on your own national team but don't act so high and mighty and then act like other teams are fodder in comparison
Look, the 5-0 defeat still cuts deep, it may sound childish to say this but he was disrespectful first, i just wanted to remind him what happened to the turkish national team in the world cup, because funnily enough, both turkiye and uzbekistan finished 4th in groups
am 16 but i plan on doing that am doing my last 2 or 3 years of high school and then going to do work and travel around the work plus in my 12th year ill pro to a year in the US or some country
and you think the US or some country is so much better than germany that you wanna live there?
If you haven’t lived in a location before, you can’t have a great opinion of it. I live in Arkansas. Cost of living is great and I enjoy it here. I’ve lived in Greece also.
who knows i doubt that tbh but what choice to i have then experiencing it myself ? its not like i support the politics or how life works there but if i can live there why not
edit: i just want to like know how it is to life in the US yk eat those fast food restaurants etc tbh i was hoping on making friends their and not being a social outcast like a small little new chapter or new life plus i wanna smoke cali weed but thats like a extra point not main focus
flag and flair saying "leave" lmfao how do you go to sleep at night when you are putting up with a dogshit team while living in an even worse country
Son, there is a country in south asia and people living there, for them your country is heaven.
there are things we take for granted in wealthier societies which we should at least try to value more before we make big decisions like moving to a whole new country
bro am valueing living here trust me i get all i can ask for but that doesnt change the fact that this countrys has flaws and my opion is invalid by that type of logic everyone who lifes in the second worst country isnt also allowed to say something bad about their country bc they have it better then the worst country
plus i want every country to have its citizens being able to life a normal life
Im pretty sure most indians and pakistani love their own country and just want it to be better instead of thinking someone's else country is heaven
ur statement is racist and dumb
What shapes a person's identity is the culture in which they grew up
The vast majority of people do not want to sacrifice this identity for a dubious quality of life in a foreign country.
thinking the average indian/pakistani dreams of living in germany is delulu
im blessed every single day living in belgium
my QOL is so much better here compared to south africa, where i used to live
the only thing is the weather, south african weather and people. they are more social
Don't tell this is the reason you started supporting Kc ?? Because scream was in KC ???
Bro,ig you hate your own country but it's not the right place for this thread. Even in "off topic". Better make a thread in reddit or some palce else.
but people talking about alcohol is okay or what ? sorry lemme rephrase that people openly talking about consuming a deadly drug mb but thats fine as a off topic your right mb
So did you see me in that thread saying "it's okay" ??? Never drank it myself btw. I am 22
wow you are so cool for not drinking and trying to start pointless arguments on vlr i hope i can have a stick up my ass just like you mr fun police
Wait. I never said bot drinking is cool. On the othr hand i have seen people being sensitive about some particular topics in "off topic" and hence decided to be that dickhead before thread got any longer
how is hate on my own country sensitive in anyway if you dont even click on this shit you dont even get to see it how can the be sensitive in anyway ??? am talking about regular stuff i dont like the people etc that is not sensitive that is an obvious normal thing to say
why cry in this threat then when its obv less harmfull the off topic category is exactly made for that reason you dumbass
i love norway
every time i feel "ah i wish this was different" i look to other countries like the UK and the US and i feel better instantly
US isn’t too bad if you’re middle class and amazing if you’re rich but yeah being poor here is the absolute worst
you guys have a higher wealth divide than France did when they had a revolution and started beheading people....
The system and Government is the US is vile.
I mean despite what you see on the news about the US, as long as you're not involved in politics and ignore trump, its actually not that bad living here.
prices still skyrocketing, we're living under mass surveillance, and we can't even eat our food anymore but yeah if you just close your eyes and go lalalalalala you dont notice it
Proceeds to prove his point by repeating the bullshit that’d you see on the news’s
??? these are things that personally affect basically every single person in the country but sure igb
you physically cannot live where i live without fearing for your life, and because of the system set up in this forsaken country it's not so easy to leave. every country has its faults, don't pretend like the US doesn't have an insane amount too-
I've been to Norway and it's insanely good over there. the only part of the UK that's likeable are more rural areas in wales / Scotland. The rest is a cesspit. and the US...
10k posts on vlr "time of my life" 😭😭 who are u trying to fool bro we know ur sitting at home 24h/day
well if he enjoys his life then let him be
it's his life after all who are we to judge when we are living our own lives
mit so ner aussage sollte man dich eigentlich weg sperren das ist hat nix mit emo phase zu tuen sondern ist die realität wenn du glaubst das die leute die politik die städte oder irgendwas gut ist bist du einfach dumm
i dont doubt that yea but its more like my country is splitting even more bc of politics plus they are shit yk what i mean ?
the politics cannot be that bad (at least to an outsider's perspective) but i always look to how others live their lives and i notice that they are just living in the moment
politics don't matter to everything in life
Delighted W. Politics are not as bad as people say compared to most other countries, it just got worse than before.
Wirklich keine Ahnung, warum du dich als "social outcast" bezeichnest bei #39. Du bist so ein Netter. Vielleicht bezeichnest du dich selber auch als "social outcast", weil andere dich unsympatisch finden, weil du so leichtfertig sagst, man solle Leute wegsperren.
Dann passt du wirklich besser nach Amerika ;)
Btw wenn du DE wirklich hasst, unter anderem weil die Leute hier doof sind, kennst du zu wenig Leute. Das ist kein Länder Problem.
joa ist ja auch nicht der grund von jahre langem mobbing oder ausgrenzung aber das weißt du bestimmt besser hast ja recht.
Du sagst leute haben eine emo phase ??? weißt du eigentlich was ein "emo" ist das ist ein style bzw kultur du verbindest das hier mit einer mentallen krankheit ist dir das bewusst leute nehmen sich das leben deswegen und du sagst oh ja einer hat ne emo phase
ich kenne genug leute und hab genug leute kennengelernt und in social media gesehen um meine meinung zu unterbrücken ich weiß was ich sage
Du meintest aber auch, du willst nach Amerika und da neue Freunde finden. Wie soll das bitte funktionieren, wenn du bei einem Kommentar bzw einem Witz direkt an die Decke gehst?
Der erste Schritt, um sein Leben zu verändern, ist sich selbst zu hinterfragen. Wenn du mit 16 schon mit der Ansicht herangehst, dass du "weißt was du sagst", kann ich dir auch schon sagen, dass du in Amerika auch keinen Erfolg mit der Gesellschaft haben wirst.
Du kannst nicht über dich selbst lachen, regst dich die ganze Zeit auf, sagst, man müsse mich einsperren.
Fremden Leuten, mit denen du dich anfreunden willst, ist es egal, ob du ausgegrenzt wurdest. Solange du dich so verhälst, wirst du in jedem anderen Land auch enttäuscht werden.
Ich verstehe nun mal keine witze über dinge wie mentalen krankheiten kein spaß und das sollte auch nicht normal sein
Ich fühle mich auch nicht in die ecke gedrückt wenn es mal normale leute sind die keine witze über mentale probleme machen naja wenn ich also nicht weiß wo von ich rede dann bitte ich dich doch mal meine punkte zu wiederlegen.
Warum soll ich über mich selber lachen mit fremden person die mich als etwas abstempeln ? und sich witzig über meine kranheit machen von der du nicht mal was weißt
Was ob ich ausgegrenzt wurde oder nicht damit zu tuen das leuten den ich mit anfreunden will egal ist als ob ich zu jeder person mit der ich was zu tuen haben will hingehe und sage "hey ich wurde ausgegrenz"
Die Punkte, die du genannt hast, sind fast alles Meinungen. Wie soll man die widerlegen?
Mein Punkt ist, dass dein Verhalten anderen Leuten gegenüber schlecht ist und die sich dann (logischerweise) nicht mit dir anfreunden wollen, weil sie dich als eine Person sehen, die keinen Spaß versteht + immer sauer ist + sich immer im Recht sieht. Beispiel: Du nimmst meinen Witz als persönlichen Angriff wahr.
Stell dir mal vor, du streitest dich mit jemandem. Kannst mir nicht erzählen, dass du einen Fehler einsehen kannst.
Du findest das system in dem wie leben also 100% ideal ? du findest das die politk grade gut ist ?
Es gibt ein unterschied zwischen witzen und zu weit gehen und ich zieh den strich bei sexualität mentalen problem alles sowas und diesen strich hast du überschritten
Sich witzig über einschrenkungen witzig zu machen ist nicht lustig keine ahnung warum du das nicht einsehen magst
und ich kann fehler einsehen sag mir wo mein fehler ist wir reden drüber
Nein, das Leben ist hier nicht 100% ideal. Du hast gesagt, du hasst die Leute hier und wenn du das wirklich ernst meinst, kennst du einfach die falschen Leute. Andere Schüler haben sich früher auch über mich lustig gemacht und geärgert, aber ich habe es hinbekommen, mich mit denen anzufreunden und bin nicht die ganze Zeit ausgerastet.
Das mit den Witzen ist natürlich immer subjektiv. Es gibt viele Leute, die selber mentale Probleme haben, die diese Witze lustig finden, es gibt viele, die sie nicht lustig finden.
Also ein Fehler ist der Gedanke, dass du in den USA besser Freunde findest, als in Deutschland. Es ist sehr ähnlich und kein Problem mit Deutschland. Ich würde auch nicht sagen, dass man hier besser Freunde findet als in Indien.
people trash it ig arent build right or "updated" plus nothing is done "against" homeless people or people with a huge drug problem
my city is fine yea not pretty but aceptable but still their are drug abuser homeless people etc and i life in a small city big citys its even worse + the citys isnt my only point
Americans will look at their current society (higher wealth divide than France during their revolution) and think 'hell yeah this is epic' (it's all ok because the US economy relies on bombing people abroad and if the US isn't at war for a gap of 5 years their entire economy basically crashes due to how heavily war inflates the economy)
I love murica
only u bc even if everything is a bit chaotic here in terms of politics life is still nice in my country (talking abt the philippines)
Philippines is a nice country why did you swap your flag and flair to fut bruh
yea but our poltics over here and not chaotic anymore but becoming to a huge problem society is splitting more and more and people who openly try to justify the bad bad bad time of germany or denying woman the equal rights as man are getting more and more power
I think from what I have seen from other countries I am really inclined to think that here is the only suitable place for life
Austria is a great country, and I would move there if I could understand your language
granted the cost of living is crazy in a lot of places like any highly developed country. also by the language do you mean the differences in the way german is spoken?
feels a little unsafe sometimes considering the country with the most soldiers itw is trying to invade you just because u exist, besides its nice though
if that isnt just hatred bc of the past or anything like that am not suprised
I hope the attitude from french and german people towards each other will never change. Its too funny
I adore my country but hate how it is ran
I don't think I'll leave any time soon though
good and bad then ? idk i was in the uk twice i was a good experience if i am being honest what country would you go to if you have the option ?
what do you like and what not ?
and if you could leave would you if yes where to ?
Feels too big sometimes and everyone seems disconnected from one another on several levels
Love specific places but they don't feel very united to me and thats a problem
I'd probably never leave tho (maybe for Spain cause i really like Spain but everywhere feels like a mess too anyway so who knows)
don't hate your own country, that's bad. you should love it and be the hope for the future, though obviously im just coping, a single human is miniscule and will probably die without achieving anything for our dear countries
i get what you mean but there is no more hope for this country tbh i doubt that we will get the curve plus i dont think i wanna stay here tbh
no offense, but you live in one of the best countries in the world, period. i know its kinda unfair for me to say it but this feels like a spoilt kid crying when the world burns getting 1/1000th of what germany has in terms of infra
what exactly does that change ? bro id give a kid my spot here i would leave no worries and i wouldnt say am spoiled lol i live in a single household with servere suicidal depressions i run of meds and drugs i got bullied i have no friends etc
It's ok bro shit happens and you will ride out of this phase of your life and it will get better. (hopefully)
das wäre die perfekte chance gewesen, um zu sagen "ey, guter witz" oder sowas in der Art.
Btw würdest du sagen, das was ich mache, zählt schon als mobbing? Weil es soll nicht so rüberkommen
I 100% agree with that. If you hate the country you can leave and give the space to someone who appreciates it.
Ja ich sag nur das du als typischer Deutscher vom Phänotyp in Argentinien weniger auffällst. Und die sprechen halt spanisch
Deutschland wegen "den Leuten" zu haten ist schon verrückt, das klingt einfach wie eine Soziophobie (such dir Hilfe). Wer sich über Städte oder die Politik hier aufregt ist auch verblendet. Wir leben in einem der schönsten Länder und haben so gut wie alle Freiheiten. Man ist nur cooked wenn man arm ist, aber auch da hast du auch Glück wenn du in Deutschland lebst aufgrund der Sozialsysteme
naja einen der sich über leute mit einschränkung lustig macht hab ich hier schon gefunden plus das ist alltag hier was genau an politik soll hier verblendet sein ? die politik die wir im moment haben ist nicht gut genau so wie alle partein die momentan im vordergrund stehen städte und menschen checke ich aber eins weil ich keine gute erfahrung mit vielen verschiedenen menschen gemacht habe
not staying for a long time i have made like vacation back when my dad was alive for longer in denmark i was in the uk twice but "thats it"
Und genau das ist dein Problem. Du bist spaßresistent. Wenn das für dich schon Mobbing ist, weiß ist gar nicht, ob du in der Schule wirklich gemobbt wurdest/wirst
(das sollte eine Antwort auf deine letzte Nachricht sein, aber irgendwie ist das jetzt doch im normalen Thread gelandet)
ich hatte gesagt das mir das online ziehmlich egal ist es gibt halt nen unterschied zwischen mit essen abgeworfen zu werden und wenn mich jemand im internet auslacht
naja ich kann dir leider nicht wirklich sagen warum das passiert ist wenn das meine "freunde" bzw naher kreis war der dies getan hat
Ja gut aber jetzt mal ganz ehrlich, solche Sachen passieren halt, es wird immer schwer sein wenn man sich nicht integrieren kann oder Probleme mit sozialen Interaktionen hat und du kannst eigentlich jeden Menschen fragen und jeder wird dir eine unterscheidliche Geschichte über seine negativen Erfahrungen mit Freunden und der Schule erzählen. Aber eine große Wahrheit die man halt erkennen muss wenn man jung ist ist das das Leben halt gerade erst losgeht, und die Schulzeit halt auch kein Spiegel des Lebens nach der Schule ist. Wenn ich dir aus meiner Erfahrung erzählen darf: Ich bin in zwei unterschiedlichen Ländern zur schule gegangen und hatte in beiden ähnlich Probleme mit Mobbing und damit Freunde zu finden die mich verstehen. Aber irgendwann hab ich es auch geschafft, mithilfe von Therapie aber auch mit dem Mindset dass das Leben halt weitergeht. Und wenn man alle Witze weglässt dann ist dDeutschland halt ein Land mit hohem Lebensstandard und guten Chancen für die meisten Bewohner, deshalb würde ich mir dreimal überlegen ob ich das aufgebe. Es mag nicht einfach klingen, und wenn ich das richtig gelesen habe bist du 16, aber die Schulzeit ist halt abhängig vo dem Abschluss den du machst früher oder später vorbei und das leben danach kann schon einem Neuanfang gleichkommen. Wenn du willst kannst du dann ja sogar ein bisschen rumreisen und dir andere Länder anschauen.
ich möchte auch gar nicht sagen das deutschland kein gutes land ist oder so aber was ist den daran so schlimm das ich es hier nicht mag ? ich rede auch nicht von aufgeben ich mag dinge hier nicht aus Gründen die für mich nie wirklich wiederlegt worden sind und ich hatte ja schon gesagt wahrscheinlich hattest du das nicht gelesen das ich vorhabe um die welt zureisen geht nur grade schlecht weil ich ja noch 16 bin.
Deutschland ist ein super Land das will nicht bezweifeln aber mir gefällt nicht was hier in der politik im moment abgeht mir gefällt nicht wie sich die leute verhalten bzw wie ich sie erlebe das ist ja überall anders
Hmm ja ich hoffe du kannst deinen Wunsch verwirklichen und die Welt ein bisschen kennenlernen, ich glaube allerdings das du hauptsächlich lernen wirst dass die Menschen eigentlich überall gleich sind, nämlich meistens ganz freundlich wenn man selber halt freundlich ist.
Ja ich wage das tatsächlich nicht anzuzweifeln ich kann natürlich falsch liegen aber während meiner zeit an meiner schule hab ich eigentlich probiert so freundlich zu sein wie möglich ich hab mit hausaufgaben lernen etc geholfen aber ich danke das du das für mich hoffst aber ich glaube auch ein anderer Grund warum ich hier einfach weg will ist einfach so das ein teil mich hier so gesehen fest hält so die schlechten zeiten wer weiß vielleicht ändert sich das ja und ich finde es hier nicht mehr so schlimm wie jetzt
Wäre es dir egal, würdest du nicht so viel mit mir schreiben.
Du meintest, dass es technisch gesehen Cybermobbing ist, wenn ein anderer Typ sagt "you will get through this phase" und ich ihm antworte und sage "its not a phase mom"
naja ich hab dich gefragt ob das WIEDER ein witz sein sollen was ja heißt das du dich drüber lustig machst und das zählt halt nach definition als cybermobbing + ich hab deine antwort tatsächlich nur aus zufall gesehen nach dem du der person geanwortet hast der mir genantwortet hat ist leider schwer zu übersehen
Kollege mein Witz fällt logischerweise nicht unter Cybermobbing. Mobbing ist etwas ernstes und ich finde es nicht gut, dass du es nicht so ernst nimmst, wie es das Thema verdient hätte.
und wieso nicht ich meine das machst witze über eine mentale einschränkung in welcher defenition zählt das nicht under cybermobbing ?
Okay, ich versuche es mit einem Beispiel:
Einmal das, was passiert ist. Der eine Typ sagt "I hope you make it out of this phase well" oder irgendwie sowas und ich sage "Its not a phase mom".
Und jetzt das Beispiel: "haha du bist mental eingeschränkt"
Würdest du sagen, dass das beides gleich schlimm ist?
naja was passiert ist ist nicht richtig da ich dich gefragt habe ob das ein witz sein sollte worauf du ja gesagt hast also machst du bzw probierst dich darüber lustig zu machen
Dein beispiel enthält gar keinen witzig also fällt der teil komplett weg
das eine szenario ist einfach nur direkter die aussage ist die selbe und deswegen kommt es für viele nicht als gleich rüber ist es aber
Wenn du wirklich glaubst, dass die Kernaussage dieselbe ist, kann ich dir hierbei auch nicht weiterhelfen. Das ist unglaublich
oh I'm definitely with u on this ....ts country is hell for middle class ppl💔🙏
go live in south sudan for a week, you'll start to appreciate your own country again
what exactly does that change ? am not saying am ungrateful i just dont like it here thats an opinion with reason behind it
other than the traffic and overpopulation, im mostly fine with living in india
U must not hate ur country, but understand why it is like that. Why do u hate German people? And why do u hate the system?
well i can only speak about my experiece with people but it wasnt so good i doubt that it is for all i was wrong in that point tbh there are actuall nice german am not doubting that ofc but often a majority just isnt
the system is gen bc the people at the lowest dont get help while the people at the highest get even more for example some politicans get 10k a month but dont even have a respected teaching in a certain topic
Honestly people are the same everywhere, from my experience I think german tend to be a bit more cold and not outgoing, but there are always good persons in every country in the world, sometimes it is a question of getting lucky or changing environment.
I can't agree with this because even though those problems u name real, Germany is still probably top 10 countries in quality of life and economy. I don't pretend to tell u ur struggles are not real but sometimes it is important to be grateful, I have family from Bolivia and they can't have access to good healthcare, there is a lot of crime and corruption is 10000000000x worse than in Germany. Anyway obv in an ideal world there shouldn't be any of this, but sometimes it is good to be pragmatic and realizing that we live in countries with really good conditions. But if u really want to move u should because it could make u happier.
100% i hate my country, if I could move I'd move to Spain (just changed my flag back lol it's been a month since the final)
i mean the problems are everywhere but mainly it's the cost of living. Like, my family is not hard pressed for money, but the system in America is incredibly favored towards the upper class and upper middle class. Healthcare is insane, gas prices are through the roof, and I regularly spend upwards of 250 dollars per week on groceries, where in the past I would just spend 200 dollars per 2-3 weeks in one big haul.
also we have foreign wars, human rights concerns, and more. Walking down the street where I live, 100% there's at least one homeless person and one drug addict. It breaks my heart to see these people and be unable to help, I think it's just the system that's the problem.
My experience in California has been decent, but only because I live in the suburbs and I'm middle class. Other states in the US claim that California is a hellhole for its taxation, homelessness, etc, but the QoL is arguably excellent here. We have four distinct seasons with sunny weather all-around (great climate), great ethnodiversity, great economic opportunities, and we have a lot of opportunities to meet people of various cultures. If you like sports, California is also a great hub of sports. Bonus points if you like landscapes and beaches.
My experience in Korea has been great, but only because I've never worked im Korea. Working culture sucks, so is the hypercompetitiveness of education (many Koreans look down on all non-EA/SEA education the way a lot of EU individuals look down on US education, formate your own opinion about this because I'm not qualified enough to judge), but beyond that everything is surprisingly advanced and communal while being high-tech. Crimes such as theft and homicide are basically near zero, the countryside (which is like max 4 hours from a major city) has a lot of people who follow a concept called "jeong" (정), or deep emotional bonds to people they've met for the first time, and city infrastructure is top tier (but from a German standpoint I guess Korea is only considered as "decent" since Germany has optimized trains, groceries, etc...).
tl;dr - california is great, so is korea. both have their downsides.
that's the problem with america though, in middle and upper class QoL can be great but in the lower class and lower middle class, which is a majority of the country, it's a hellhole
taxes aren't really the problem, it's just the cost of living is so high because of the way America was built and still runs today
I live in Seattle, for me it's great because the environment is nice, and I live in a nice suburb. But people from out of state always complain about the (well i complain too even if I can afford it) ridiculously high housing prices, gas prices, etc. Even some podcasters (joe rogan ahem) have talked about the latest millionaire tax and how rich people are leaving (spoiler alert: no. I mean, even I have to pay a very small amount for it, like $1000, it's not gonna shoo me away. The rich rich do not care about the money, except for ONE person, the Starbucks CEO, and good riddance becaues he sold our basketball team WHAT A SNAKE). In the worse neighborhoods, homelessness is really a problem.
For OP, I think its safe to ignore the long-term pros/cons in their situation, so housing/gas costs shouldn't be as big of an issue as the experience aspect.
Emotionally speaking, though, yes, long-term shit should be very important considering it can impact oneself mentally.
i used to live in cali and I have relatives, i travel there regularly
California can be great. The coast is beautiful, the weather can be amazing, and the nature is exquisite. In terms of US States, definitely near the top. It does depend on the family you stay with though. If on the Coast, for example around the bay area, your experience can be very different than if you stay in, for example, Sacramento. I do recommend surfing though. Much better than in Germany 🤣
tbh i knew california was like crazy for the clima and stuff but other then that i didnt really know what state i should go to but my idea was to go to the US and am a huge smoker so i naturally landed on california for cali weed so am probally aiming for that plus the nice weather could probally be really nice and refreshing from the wheather over in germany and i never surfed here not really much possibility to do it anyway
i know people who think like this. I'm not saying smoking isn't good for you sometimes, but in the long term, it only does more harm than good.
If you have a tree that has some rotten leaves, do you paint over the leaves with green paint? No, the tree just keeps getting more rotten. To solve the problems you must get down to the root of the problem - cut off the branch, even analyze the roots
long term, smoking will only harm you. It's like painting over leaves. Yeah, it works for now, but the tree WILL die. Therapy is a good option, or whatever makes you happy and doesn't involve harmful side effects (swimming, surfing, skydiving, idk)
gang i wish am in theraphy am on heavy medication in adults doses when am only 16 i got send to a mental hospital etc all that before even smoking and i was still suicidal
Edit: theraphy for atleast 6 month and medications before smoking its like over watched by my therapist and mom aswell
one of the faults of therapy, imo, is their failure to address alternatives
therapists like to talk about everything that makes someone feel depressed, everything that makes someone sad. Yes, the therapist gets to know what it is, but it isn't so easy to just "get rid" of it. Repeat drug offenders are so common because they don't know any other way to be happy. The most common criminals are repeat offenders; they don't know any other way to live life - they can't get a job because of their record, so many will steal. Instead, I think therapists should always talk about alternatives first before solving the problem. Going back to my trees, imagine your addiction is a tree. You can't just change the type of the tree - instead, you have to grow a new tree of a different type, then you can cut the other one down, that way your brain still knows a way to be happy (a tree) but also you got rid of the other tree (when you cut down the tree but don't instill a new one, as many therapists do, it just comes back)
What makes you happy? I enjoy hiking, for example. Do something you enjoy - get an outlet that lets you be happy. After doing such a thing, I think therapy has a better chance for working - they teach you how to get rid of smoking, you teach yourself (from earlier) how to be happy without it.
Am doing that tbh am sober for like a couple of days atm which is pretty rare and its decent am liking working on getting my life together even while smoking actually it helps me thats about it when am geeked i usually write ideas down to do when sober am working on going to the gym again and stuff
Plus i wanna go pro in valorant and that lowkey helps me alot even tho am bad i just grind myself into dms and aim trainers so i dont get addiction gravings or withdrawal syndromes
Tbh all of this started with smoking weed after a couple of month of smoking i got smoke shit together yk renovated a room now i wanna go pro in val my plan with school exchange year am working on getting my license now
Honestly, you should seek professional advice or something like that. You are very young and should not think like that when you know nothing about nothing (this is not an insult btw)
i was about to say 😭
i'm talkin bout nature and the environment and brother starts talkin bout the weed and smoking that is NOT what i was thinking😭 i mean weed is legal in Washington too but just cuz something's there doesn't mean you have to do it.
Look, i get that he enjoys smoking, but it's better for him in the long term to quit. It gives temporary happiness, but long term, you'll be depressed if not dead already
Hey man, there's light at the end of the tunnel.
Don't give up.
California is excellent for a transfer/exchange year, permanently residing in California from a foreign country is a bit more uncertain. I'm 20 and attending a UC college right now, and I know a few European exchange students who enjoy their time here.
didnt expect this thread to blow up, but america is not what it used to be ngl.
america is a pretty cool country i guess
i'm young and haven't lived anywhere else to know
but it has given me a pretty great life
i'm grateful
A lot of Indians don't like india , not that they hate the country but what the people( indians) have made of India and turned india into.
can jpn citizen
prefer japan cuz japanese was always my dominant language, also its much more easier to navigate stuff as a minimum wage worker
i rly dont have any opinion on politics cuz im rly not qualified enough to talk abt it but both of the governments are super overhated imo
wdym by "can jpn citizen" ? *
do you mean like if your allowed to share you opinion here ?
ohhh am so sorry
i have a question then um what do you think about exchange year in japan ? like is this something possible or is it recommended just from the fact not like expensives or language barrier
if u live in germany i think japan is rly good destination for exchange program
i think it makes more sense to go to place that has vastly different culture than going to places like canada cuz i imagine experiencing different cultures are the selling point of exchange program, its def more than "japan is not expensive" imo
okay thanks for your opinion yea my thinking is between US or japan/asian country the thing is it just have a big language barrier and idk if i could break that
tbh i just looked at the price like the estimate its between 8-15k for a full year and ngl that sounds way better then i thought ngl US is like hella expensive and idk if i can afford that so if i can somehow break the language barrier that might be an option
I just dont like that a lot of Germans always have a stick up their arse.
there are a lot of things I dont like about England either, I feel like a lot of people my age are either overly nihilistic and think theyre deep because of it, or they go too far the other way and everything is a joke to them, but I have to say of all the people I have interacted with or even seen content describing their way of life, Germany for sure sucks the most. That being said, I have never been to Germany, my experience is mostly wit Germans who have moved to England, but from what Ive heard/experienced/seen on the internet I wont be going any time soon
Weirdly enough, despite all the shit they get from other countries in EU, France has definitely been my favourite in terms of people ive interacted with. Most people there are very friendly and charismatic in my personal experience, even when I went to Paris for EWC and it was 37C outside, or when I went camping in the middle of nowhere it was all good
you arent wrong lemme make that clear but there is a big BUT yes alot of germans do that but alot are also normal people if someone moves from germany i doubt that they will talk about yk the good stuff there and not what made them leave a coin always has 2 sides but yea german people are good and bad it just depends where when etc you meet them
obviously there are good and bad to both, my point is that the stick up arse: non stick up arse ratio is much higher for Germany than other countries because I just find the whole "overly serious, everything must be proper" mindset to be grating, and that is much higher in Germans cause thats your guys culture
yea if you phrase it like that its so true but sad yea alot of germans stick their nose where it doesnt belong and its true yea
I like living in Saudi a lot so can't relate
hope things get better for u tho
I have a close friend moving to Saudi next year for work and he said I can come visit
what is fun to do there other than go to EWC when its on
and also will I get arrested and beaten with a stick because of my dyed hair/piercings or will they recognise that im a tourist and leave me alone
bro chill there's ppl with piercings and dyed hair in my uni it isnt as serious as ppl make it out to be (there's stigma but no one is gonna arrest u over it)
besides ewc there's the rest of riyadh season which has a bunch of yearly events that happen in an area called the boulevard
saudi malls r also quite nice
if u like karting there's also a few nice spots
i heard a lot of good things about saudi, hopefully i can visit there next year or two
i also hate living in bulgaria, i have lived in austria, hungary and Uk before and i felt so much happier there like , even when i am walking alone in the city i felt so boss and cool but in bulgaria everyone around me is just the opposite of me and i feel very introverted
thats sad to hear if you ever can do you plan on moving if yes where ? ps i wish you the best over there
i am going back to study in uk this year and i wont probably stay in bulgaria after i finish if i had the choice, i wish you also the best
okay so i dont like the gen system we have over here i dont like the politics bc neither are good/helping left right or central if had bad experiences with people here all though this isnt much of a argument bc thats diff and i see still i wanna like let lose of these bad people bc i stil life in the same town alot of german people stick their nose where it doesnt belong or are just grumpy and mean society is getting split day by day which makes it hard to become "one" as a country the country doesnt help those who need it instead throws them away there probally more stuff but its hard to write town and i dont have it in mind rn
LONG LIVE THE VENEZUELAN PEOPLE AND LET THE CHAVIST GOVERNMENT FALL INTO HELL
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