yall are so controlling and disgusting i genuinely feel pity for u
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saying your girl can't have male friends is insane
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ok at first i had skepticism but now i KNOW THIS IS ragebsit geared towards me
how is saying your girl CANT have male friends not controlling, do u hear yourself
dude sorry bro i’m also against women’s rights somehow idk man it’s just all adding up
I couldn't care less if she did but if she asked me not to have female friends I would oblige seeing as in most cases it's the right thing to do. Also being a guy I can tell you most guys think with their dick and not their brains. So in most cases that way it's fair. It's fair to ask that of a partner both ways.
I mean people could speak on technicalities and say it's not a problem they can have male friends vice versa. It's very must possible. But guys can be horny shitters and so can women. It goes both ways full stop. It's up to the 2 individuals in the relationship to decide their own boundaries.
sure but I think in the name of ragebait you may have stretched a bit and people are letting you know. Just let it subside man
After hearing about the cost of generative AI, I now want to know the environmental impact of wasteful VLR threads
i agree with you? how is that crazy? it depends on the situation bc i think as a guy there are some people you can very clearly recognise who actually want them, in which case i find it also not a weird thing to bring up and ask yo, but its still their decision
did u like even bother reading my replies
i made it abundantly clear
i no expect her to change for i
i trust girl. i no trust other guys
it not one way street. it two way street
it preference
it opinion
it’s the same icks you got that i got
hey guys isn’t it pretty fucking strange how i haven’t gotten a reply below this yet? I WONDER WHY
just bc ur an incel doesnt mean ur partner has to become one lol, forcing this upon someone is just a red flag
“it’s hard to win an argument against a smart person but impossible against a dumb person”
the big leagues are calling
dude ur so weird 😭😭😭
u out of anyone should be grateful im hearing ur dumbass out after the icks post. i mean at the end of the day isn’t it just opinions and preferences .
me not wanting horny men tryna be friends with my girl doesn’t mean i’m misogynistic or a bad partner
anyways im pretty fucking smart so i can recognize patterns easily and ur either a baiter or a dumbass which in both cases means i don’t wanna engage further in discussion with you so have a good day or night and don’t reply to me again
if u cant trust a girl you're an incel. lmao
if a girl sees that a friend of hers just wants sex, she's not going to entertain it
you just have this baseline assumption that your girlfriend is going to cheat on you if she talks to literally any guy, and you have to be the big man and put your foot down. that's controlling, you'll learn someday
not only its a debate, most people here think im geniunely crazy for saying this. i always leave this convos feeling so weird cause there's no way people actually think like this on a serious note
cucks = not letting your partner have a friend of the opposite sex?
do u hear yourself? i have female friends that i care about a lot and if a girl ever told me to cut all of them off i would end the relationship instantly, you cant dictate who im friends with and its crazy how normalized it is, yall are the real insecure people
how does that change what i said, it goes both ways, i wouldn't leave my best friends because my girl is insecure and jealous, i only said girl because your post was about girls
it don’t rlly it’s just hella funny to see
and cool story bro ur tuff bros > hoes hell yeah dude
look bro if ur not baiting ur just not intellectually advanced to have a discussion
no one said u cant have both im js saying thats how i prefer it, as just like you ive had personal experience with this type of situation
i aint gon MAKE u do shit but it’s a preference isn’t it
can't have male friends? I personally think she shouldn't have friends at all, full stop. friends will always have a negative impact on your relationship, make sure to isolate your girl from her friends asap or she'll leave you
at this point I'm losing hope in this users of this sites abilities to do anything in life.
i agree, but if she goes out with them all the time or so close to them, than its kinda weird
obv there's gotta be a boundary. if your girl doesn't understand this, better leave her
yea ik, but i know some people saying online saying they will neevr let their gf have any male friends like that
This emanates red flags like crazy but you do you bro, I would say that a guy who is obviously into my gf needs to go but that is an extreme, applying that to every guy friend is just ragebait
it shows the level of trust in the relationship. if he/she have a history of cheating then only this rule should be implemented
All I’m gonna say is that you need to take this as a case by case basis instead of of applying general blanket statements
ur the insecure one. if ur worried so much about your girl cheating do u really trust her? is it really a good relationship when you're SO SO worried that u cant let her see guy friends?
It's called preference. If your partner doesn't like it for whatever reason, call it insecurity or whatever, then it obviously will not work out between them. Let them decide it's their personal decision and stop pushing the extremes
its a controlling preference that's based on insecurity and jealousy. its very toxic and the person with this preference should work on it. i don't doubt that its a real insecurity and a problem but we shouldn't normalize it.
Well, if a person feels that way , it always because of his past experiences in that field which were obviously not to their liking.
Will you be mad if someone who recently been through a car accident be overly cautious while driving? Will you call him insecure?
i wouldn't and i understand it, i just think, and the replies on this post prove it, that it has become the norm, everyone kinda thinks like this even if something didnt happen to them, so why should i normalize it and accept it? especially when it often comes as a controlling behaviour that not all people are able to escape from and would just accept out of fear of being alone. ur partner is not your possession and people need to clearly understand that
, everyone kinda thinks like this even if something didnt happen to them
You never know what other people have been through to feel that way. I'm not saying it's wrong to have female friends but if the guy has prior trauma/ bad past experiences in that regard, it shouldn't be necessarily seen as controlling.
Just let the couple decide what's best for them and talk it out. If it doesn't work out , it is what it is, there's the door.
Is this really that hard for you to understand?
you mean to tell me every single person in this thread has been cheated on? whats so hard for u to understand that its a controlling and toxic behaviour? if u don't trust your partner to interact with HALF of the population are u really ready to be in a relationship? its not just a decision that u take and its fine, your whole view on relationship and your partner is problematic and fucked.
Unfortunately the opposite sex which is the gf, isnt a perfect creature and if she has guy friends that hang around with her and enjoy their time together thats basically a relationchip with no labels under the mask of a friendship. Now i personally dont know abt you but i damn sure wouldnt like for that to be the case for me.
Now if were talking interactions only then perhaps fine but hanging around and whatnot is a no for me and you dont have to force your opinion down ppl throats because some of those ppl dont have to get cheated on by their gf to know that the male friend would very likely develop fellings or vise-versa and would "hit" in a heart beat if they get the chance. Now you could say that you should trust your gf to not cheat on you but most of the time theyre aware of the male feelings but choose to ignore it in order to keep their attention and possibly for a spin back incase you guys breakup.
i mean dating culture isnt really a thing in saudi
so i have no valuable contribution to this discussion
its not that anymore
but like usually the way ppl meet is in uni, then after talking stage they get engaged directly
so no "dating" in the middle
That reality is very amusing to me.
Also the women would get the whip for cheating probably so its not a factor 😭
(Yes, this is problematic people dont get on my dick)
no!!! today i learned at vlr.gg who girls cant ever interact with others men, only her husband!!! any other situation u will be retarded and cuck!!!! lets go nerds gamers!!!
I agree lyssss, some people are so disgusting and icky!! If you come to France you won't have to deal with this tho
Lyssss i do agree with all of the replies you posted.
It just opened my eyes about majority of the vlr users cant fathom the fact that 2 people of the opposite genders can be bestfriends and be platonic as well. Its just sad they are narrow minded in this case ;/
And even i wouldnt cut my friends off just because a girl tells me shes not comfortable with the idea of me being friends with the opposite gender.
I thought this was gonna be a joke post
The fact that theres actual debates going on is... worrying?
I get being protective of something you love, but dont take the fun out of relationships?
Why make a rule that now means you can't bring your SO to stuff you enjoy with your friends, and your SO cant take you.
Making each others life worse by isolating yourselves from existing friends isnt gonna help anyone.
This isnt the 1900's anymore, ya dont have to be married by the age of 20. You can wait and find someone who you actually like.
This will be the only time i agree with lyssss, people can be friends with anyone they want. Of course there is boundary, but just because you are in a relationship with someone doesn't mean your relationship with your friends has to change just because they share the same gender.
This is a lie, just remembering your skuba take is enough to prove this.
It shouldn't be a problem for your SO to have a friend of the opposite gender, but at the same time if they don't set any boundaries between them and their friend of the opposite gender then you have the right to bring attention to it and tell your SO your not comfortable with them being so close or having little boundaries to said friend.
As a woman I'll just never get it. If I get into a relationship and they're telling me that they want me to cut off people I've known for longer than them, with deeper connections than them, etc. I would say fuck all the way off. I am a lesbian, but observing straight people be so insecure that they have to have their partner cut people off to feel okay about their relationship only tells me that the relationship was already doomed. Relationships are built on trust. You don't trust your partner not to cheat? Don't date. It's that simple.
Sometimes I read your conversations and I get an ick just from the way you type about women and how you want to control them. Ew. You don't deserve her.
bad news, ur gf is cheating on you RIGHT NOW, and you letting it happen because you "dont wanna be controlling or insecure"
This is genuinely the new meta. anything about icks get at least 100 messages
this community is so unhinged wtf?
Idk if it's a western thing where this "redpill" type of mindset is prevalent, or maybe cheating culture is normal over there. But im friends with girls that are IN RELATIONSHIPS and have multiple friends that are best friends with women that are also IN RELATIONSHIPS for YEARSS (No issues not even a single time) the fact that this is even a discussion is CRAZY TO ME!!!!
Y'all are so possessive and so horny that you guys literally think the only relationship a women and a man can have is to hook up with them.
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