my friend is closeted gay and cant admit it

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lyssss

what should I do? this is deadass a real situation and I'm not baiting.
this friend of mine has always been a very religious person and grew up in a traditional family, they would never accept that he's gay. That's not the only problem tho, cause he himself cannot accept or rightfully acknowledge that he is homosexual. He loves femboys and reads a lot of yaoi and says that he's never been really interested in a relationship (w women), to me its insanely clear that he's at least bi and i would like to help him find himself but everytime he rejects the idea completely. what should i do

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ash_knuckles

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nothing. if he accepts himself cool if he doesn't leave the nebro alone

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simbhdri

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DOESN'T LEAVE THE WHAT

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ash_knuckles

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i'm black

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king_bob

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take my upvote kind stranger

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KiwiJuice

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do nothing, it's not your business

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nooomy

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why do u give af? its his identity, not yours cuh

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SkyXD

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don’t force him to be someone he doesn’t want to be

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SkyXD

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why is ts downvoted

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GarbanzoEnjoyer

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because op isn't forcing anything so this advice is redundant

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SkyXD

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to me its insanely clear that he's at least bi and i would like to help him find himself but everytime he rejects the idea completely

making value judgments, wants to do something, “everytime” suggests multiple times, also implies that despite the friend rejecting “completely”, OP has repeatedly brought it up

he’s not forcing anything on paper, but don’t go the extra step

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he already have a binding vow set on him so it’s better you stay away

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unfertile

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shut up and mind your business

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lyssss

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? why would i not try to help my friend? im not pushing him to do anything

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unfertile

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he might not even be gay just mind your business and let him be holy

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Twiggy

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you're not trying to help him, you're trying to "fix" a situation that doesn't need fixing. trying to coax someone out of the closet so you can prove you're right isn't being a friend, creating a comfortable environment for them to know they're accepted no matter their sexuality so that if and when the time comes that they want to share that information with you (which may never happen) they will is being a friend

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Bruh is acting like he should do something its his choice gang let him be who he wants to be don't force him out the closet

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dont ask a valorant forum lol but also not really ur place to force him to do that

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lyssss

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who said im forcing him

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Re2

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brotato is asking vlr about ts

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Tetrodotoxin

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Making assumptions like this (even if correct) is really pointless. If he is not straight, there is no reason for him to out himself out of safety reasons which are entirely valid.

How he views his sexuality is entirely up to him and there's no self admitting, or needing to "find himself". Being pushy will not make it any easier for him if he is not straight, so leave that aspect of him be.

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bruh

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DrudaL

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do nothing??? let bro decide for himself

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Shadow_Monarch

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Help him be happy. Thats the only thing you can do as a friend.

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u

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nothing, hes your friend and you should just treat him like one regardless of your speculations.. if he wants and feels comfortable enough, let him come out to you on his own. like you said, if hes religious he may be having conflicting feelings but i dont think you prodding him would help much, especially if youre already done that and he keeps rejecting. just be there for him if he needs you

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Alvis

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Why u care so much about him?? Just propose him that u are GAY TOO!!

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indicrow

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let him come to whatever conclusion about his identity he wants. at the end of the day all you can do is be supportive of him no matter what labels or lack of labels he chooses to give himself.

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u might be the liberal final boss

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i think you let him figure it out on his own terms

you can’t really force him. i say just be as supportive as you can and listen to him as a friend when he needs it.

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jump his ass

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aiminverylabs

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let him figure it out on his own terms instead of forcing him cro