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how do you guys deal with depression/mental health

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fallwithtj

plz be serious or not

kinda curious about what you guys do cuz ive been struggling pretty bad with my mental health and I wonder if I could be doing anything differently to see progress

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Thanks for all the advice guys

A list of things I gotta work on:

  • Stop comparing myself to people on social media by reducing screen time/disconnecting
  • Spend more time outside (about an hour everyday)
  • Cherish the time I spend with friends rather than just existing with them
  • Distract myself with activities that actually matter (reading, music, videos/documentaries, diet)
  • Do activities not to impress others but to impress myself
  • Participate in a social activity that encourages me to work towards a cause or a form of fulfillment thats not unhealthy
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WjFROST
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Depends on what youre going through

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fallwithtj
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tbh, its kinda just me being stuck in this cycle of self hatred. I have hobbies but i’m bad at appreciating them if that makes sense

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I_LOVE_LESS
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thug that shit out
but legit i just distract myself until i can sleep and eventually this strategy will fail and the consequences will be dire 👍

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fallwithtj
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ive been trying to distract myself but theres too much time during the whole day for me to keep my brain busy

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I_LOVE_LESS
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yeah thats the issue i encounter as well
i actively play games from tons of genres and watch movies/shows/documentaries to cycle distractions when i get bored of something and just try to make it through the day

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fallwithtj
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i started witcher 3 recently, 100 hours in and its been so much fun and recently my pc started crashing every other second so I cant play that

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beayuh
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This is exactly what I did and it went away after maybe 1 month

When I couldn’t sleep at night I’d put a video or something on it the background to listen to to get my thoughts off things

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I_LOVE_LESS
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yeah i do that a lot too, background noise + thinking time is super important some days i just dont sleep when i have too much stuff going on i need to think through

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hi beayuh

#27
beayuh
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What’s up shesh! Exams are almost over, I’m excited!

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shesh_
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!!!

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i quit social media last december when i was really feeling like shit and just picked up a few hobbies

only as of like a week ago have i started reintroducing it back into my life

won't work for everybody tho

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fallwithtj
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honestly this is what i need to do. Instagram and reddit have been ruining me. A digital disconnect

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shesh_
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make sure to replace it with something else you'd be proud of doing though

if you check ur screentime right now i can guarantee u have hours doomscrolling reels and tiktok or whatever

if u just go cold turkey it'll only make it worse

i replaced it with studying, going to the gym, reading manga, and just going outside, you've gotta find something you'd be happy spending your time doing

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fallwithtj
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yea, i gotta find an activity i can do alone that makes me feel proud after its complete. I make music but it keeps me trapped in my house the entire day and its not good

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wintery
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i dont im still suffering

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SadPandaBear
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Spend time with others, it’s easy to stew in a depression spiral if you isolate yourself.

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erenkarayilan123
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do pottery and grind league

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fallwithtj
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grind league, you want me to die 💀

#38
erenkarayilan123
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or go hiking regularly i guess. that works well too. but you need to soak it all in

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I mean for me if it ever gets too much I just completely stay off the internet

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Raisor
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Journaling really helps me deal with a lot of things and just getting outside/ doing things and not allowing myself to stagnate

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shrike-
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i don’t

#17
welikefortniteandvalorant
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idk what ure going through but being able to vent that shit out to someone is helpful. and this might sound bad but if u rly dont have anyone either write that stuff down on a journal or talk to ai. but i will advise u to talk to an actual human. and dont be shy to open up to ppl, u might strengthen some friendships on the way. i never did therapy but apparently that helps a lot too. if the person you vent to doesnt feel like they help then find someone else.

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fallwithtj
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ive been going to therapy for the past four weeks. Its been helping to have a conversation free of judgement. This is true tho, im pretty bad at opening up

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FrenchToast
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sleep it off until i feel better

#22
lyssss
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other lovely people

#24
Wolfed
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dont be afraid to seek out professional help. there are sooo many people going through similar things as you, and there are also a lot of people who want to and are specialized to help you ❤️

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Find someone to talk to. Whether it be family, friends, a therapist, a diary you write in, Hell go to the ocean and scream it to the sea. Just find something to get the thoughts you're feeling out of your system and into the world.

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fishing definitely sounds like it could be a boring but a head clearing thing to do

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Madouza
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it is, that and archery funny enough.

Take your anger out on a target 500 yards away from you

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i’ve been feeling a ton of depression over the last month and the things that have helped me the most are more fresh air, cooking, and cleaning

it can be really hard to get started but if you set yourself to do one of these things, you’ll be so much happier once one of them is done. continue keeping that a habit and every day will get easier

professional help can also be a good option for a lot of people, everyone goes through different things, but the important thing is to put yourself in new environments and bring some change in your life

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fallwithtj
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yea habits are good. Im just too impatient to see the habits pay off. I want results overnight not within a year or two

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cirruss
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if you focus too much on finding overnight changes, you’ll have wasted that time wishing you had something more immediate, and you’ll still find yourself searching for it

habits and systemic changes are the biggest way to ensure you’ll feel better long term. once the overnight fix doesn’t work anymore, where will you go next?

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it’s a lot easier to deal with it when you talk to the people that ground you
for me, if i dont constantly distract myself or talk to the people that i consider my anchors in life, it feels like my minds gonna explode

distractions make it a lot easier to deal with, my friends make me laugh when we play together

good luck gng ❤️

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foythvlr
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honestly the key thing for me nowadays is to just use less internet

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31Raven
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the best thing thats worked for me is just to do/find things that make you happy (or at least doesnt bire you/is interesting). its both good because, yk, its something that makes you happy, but also you get distracted (which itself is really helpful too, even if ur not interested in something distraction can help u take ur mind off wtv u need to)

also dont be a 100t fan, thats prob not great for ur mental

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  • Do something that involves human interaction and ideally face to face
  • Spend time without your phone, reduce social media, dont go cold turkey it will do more harm
  • Also replace screen time with something productive
  • Workout or just walk in nature
  • Prioritize eating healthy, sleeping well
  • Good that youre going to therapy and if you have issues opening up, when youre not in the appointment you might have moments where you wanna yap about the issues, you can record yourself and share that with the therapist or jot it down in your notes.

All of this might be alot of changes to do at once, so do 1 task at a time, when you feel like youre ready to move onto the next task, dont. Wait a lil longer to perfect your craft and then move onto the next thing. Hope this helps.

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fallwithtj
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thank you for this…it was geniunely really meaningful advice

I think walking in nature and opening up to others is what resonated with me the most.

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KiwiJuice
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What helped for me, because I was also stuck in a vicious circle of self loathing and isolation, is that I thought about what I really wanted in life and I started taking the smallest steps imaginable towards that goal. It wasn't really anything big. I started doing things like going on short walks, reading a chapter in a book, looking up recipes.
That's if you really feel like you're stuck and you dont know what to do. The only thing that helps is doing something. The smallest step really really helps you in the right direction. This isn't a quick and easy fix and to be honest with you there is no such thing. It's always going to take effort but even the smallest amount of effort is worth so much more than doing nothing and it will 100% make you feel better too.

Another thing is talking about it. You talked about it on here which is a good step. But try to talk about it with someone close to you, someone you trust or even better: a professional if you deem that necessary.

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fallwithtj
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yea i have been really getting into books as of late. Rn i am reading 1984 cuz I never read it in school. And I have been trying to cook, not good but im trying

#41
dort
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https://www.vlr.gg/542272/nrg-vs-fnatic-valorant-champions-2025-gf

simple and effective remedy, i recommend this one

always brings me great joy revisiting this game after a rough day and seeing boaster weep on stage, u should try it

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Hello! I am Elisabeth and I am diagnosed with OCD, major depressive disorder, anxiety disorder, panic disorder and agoraphobia. Basically, been dealing with this since I was a teenager lol

This is going to sound weird, but leaning into primary instincts of comfort always. For me when I was at my worst, that was a very specific cat youtube channel and critical role. Now when I'm struggling I look for lore videos of my favorite games. Everything on DND and just relax as much as I can.

Recently, for me, getting out and playing at my MTG locals has been super fulfilling and great! Finding a local thing like that for you I think would help.

I think also realizing that you don't have to have every day be the MOST SUPER FANTASTIC AWESOME DAY EVER helps. Like, just getting through it is such a win.

If you're able, medicine and someone to talk to are lifesavers. They were for me.

Even if it's just for five minutes, going outside and feeling the sun on your face can absolutely reset things. If I can't go outside, stretching, massaging and progressive muscle relaxation are all things I like.

I would recommend mindfulness and meditation because other people do, but it has never worked for me (ADHD) -- if its something that works for you, do it!

ALSO, ABOVE ALL, you NEVER have to have it all figured out right this second. Life is dynamic. You are dynamic. What I wanted last year is not what I wanted for myself this year.

Above all: solidarity. I had plans to take my life in 2021 and ever since then I have made every day for my mental health always because I refuse to go back to that darkness. I believe in you and I am so excited for your healing.

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Spend time with family

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Vgb
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Move out somewhere else. the environment can be the one thing that can affect your mental state.

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