I liked this guy for like over a year and then I came out as bi to him and it turns out he is homophobic af and now I think he hates me
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like most people arent good except they are homophobic
so if you werent bi there would still be other red flags
idk if im able to put my point into words
i mean like you dodged a bullet
idk if this is the right thing to post on vlr but if he hates you for this he wasnt worth your time anyway fine ppl that actually apreciate you
dodged a bullet bud, if he's homophobic he's probably a lotta things as well
wow that’s pretty shitty of him to throw away a what he sees as a friendship because of your dating preferences, really awful that you have to find out like that, but in the long run you probably dodged a bullet.
It doesn't really seem like a close friendship tho? Like if this person knew them for over a year and doesn't know something like that safe to say they weren't that close. Not tryna defend the dude but it's all assumptions right now
Some people spend their whole life not telling anybody. Like not their family or closest friends
Jst an add on he said he is also rly disgusted by trans ppl and im non binary so Yh
Yeah that guy didn't even deserve to be in your presence. Such a loser. You definitely dodged a bullet there
It's not your fault don't worry. I'm sorry it had to happen this way but to be honest with you, y'all probably wouldn't work anyways since he is like that
u never noticed the homophobic in the 1+ year you befriended him? hope ur well, this could be a blessing in disguise :)
Very impressed by the maturity of VLR ngl. Might be the first time anyone’s ever said that
Dunno why you’d be upset by that? He’s trash. Though tbf not sure how you went a year not knowing he wasn’t attracted to the same gender unless they’re just like super reserved.
He contacted me through sms messages and for some reason said he doesn’t hate me even tho now like I rly fucking hate him
What did he say or do that made you think he is homophobic? How bad was it? Maybe one can work on ignorance. But spite? No. If he is spiteful then this relationship will only be harmful
I'm curious, what did you like about him in the first place?
was it looks? personality?
He was kinda good looking was funny and sweet and was abit on the feminine side
Im ngl man, if you live in SEA it's tough unless you're in Thailand. Most guys are homophobic by default unfortunately, gotta be careful to whom you come out to. Chin up tho bro.
I’m from Malaysia but moved to the uk when I was less than one years old and am half Malaysian Chinese and half British
Hopefully Yh I pushed away a guy who a lot of ppl have told me likes me because I wanted to be w him
ull find someone much better truss he seems like an ass anyways
u win some u lose some
Why hate yourself? If he's genuinely homophobic then he's probably not a good person. I think it's fine for him to have his own beliefs and may not necessarily 'understand' or agree with it completely, but to me a friend will support you regardless.
If you come out to him (but didn't explicitly say you liked him) and he still acted like that and couldn't put aside beliefs/cultural differences to maintain a friendship then it's simply not worth it. You are who you are, don't change for something as novel as this.
why do u hate yourself? its something u cant just do anything about it ? u will find love...not immediatly but surely
bro i got like dunked on by 5 differnt girls lmfao...shit happens mane cant do much about it
do NOT think about it anymore tbh...the more u think about it the more u get hurt...visit sum friends, go to a trip, idk if u are the self improvement type but yea do sum excersises...it will get better eventually.
yeah try not to have the mindset "I have to find love", if someone is destined for you they'll show up
i jst had a genius idea how abt i like subliminally convince him he is gay and if he likes me i reject him
Nah just move on, that's the best reaction when rejected. Never become bitter and salty it's not worth it.
you will find someone so much better trust also its not your fault so dont hate yourself
Hot take: First don't hate urself it was just very unlucky and a lot of people here are right he isn't meant for you and you should must likely disconnect.
but all the people calling him trash and inferring he is a horrible person, I can't agree, cause all of them have to be either major internet users or lived in a culture accepting place.
How can you blame a person and call them horrible because their family, culture, beliefs, environment and friends all made them be homophobic?
is it right? No, but also assuming he is a horrible person and not a misguided person is just crazy, icl.
Please don't ever hate urself because of others, especially things you can't control, have a good day
i think you should say bye bye (get it) to him anyways, if hes homophobic its a masive red flag ngl
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