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how are people confident
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It's called self esteem. It's all about how you perceive yourself to be.
lol i cant like im dumb gay and ugly and like spend my time playing games like persona valorant and genshin and listen to emo music, like I've got no friends and my family is ashamed of me i cant do shit to help them and like my grades are sub par its impossible to be positive
oh boy dont say that, everyone does and enjoys different things, I dont know where are you in life but find a hobby that makes you feel better every day for sure you are.
eg: an instrument, gym, your studies, take care of yourself
Ive logged like 80hrs on p5 and 1200 on val, doesnt make me worse as a person
ive spent like 1 k hours on val and am still shit i have no talent in anything and like i get constantly made fun off for my hobbies
this world have made us ashamed of being who we are, literally all the descriptions youve gave of yourselve sound like other people have told you that, who gaf if you arent aspas as long as you are having fun in the game
dont be guilty of being happy and take a look to the other people, is harder to say you look good than to say that guy is dressed like shit
and the other thing, what with their opinions? words go with wind and your life is YOURS and a present
if it brings any solace, this has been how every young person ever for the last hundred years has felt, at a time or another. Society likes putting emphasis on young people being "perfect" and lots of people (especially your parents) can have unreasonable expectations of young people because they want to see you succeed.
To an extent grades don't matter at all. You can pass a class with the lowest average score of anyone in the tests, and aslong as you pass theres nothing anyone can tell you. Grades aren't a metric of success, grades aren't a metric of "intelligence". grades are a metric of who put in the most effort to focus on schoolwork rather than enjoying their time with their hobbies.
Getting friends is easy man. IRL friends is a little harder especially if you're inclined to skip classes (as I was), but online especially it's so, so easy. I've met so many great people from just playing video games and adding people from games who i enjoyed talking to and who seemed like chill people, and I still meet people to this day like this. Despite what some people may say, online friendships are very real, and they count as "real friends". This is something that took me alot of time to realize and what made me a little miserable for a time.
Here's one thing I will say that would've stung for me 5 years ago: No one likes being around negative people. Full stop. If you want friends you have to be the one putting yourself out there and being a ray of fucking sunshine on other peoples' days, even if that's not how you feel at all. It feels disingenuine at first, sure, but after some time that'll become your default (especially in certain circles where you're more inclined to have a "fake" positive attitude)
- you can go from dumb to average by putting more effort into learning/being cultured
- nothing wrong with being gay
- you can go from ugly to average by choosing styles that suit you and learning skincare
- you literally choose how to spend your time, if you dont like how you spend it then just change your ways
- making friends is easy as long as you push yourself outside your comfort zone
- your family most likely loves you, I get in a lot of Asian households there are a lot of expectations but im sure if they heard how you spoke about yourself they would be devastated. If they arent, then wait till you are an adult and find your family through friends and partners, there are plenty of people in the world who are willing to love you
find confidence in delusion. im in a similar spot and i understand that no matter how much i hate myself, im the only person i've got
I mean, build who you want to see in the mirror so then you are proud of what you are
takes time. took me 3 years to gain some confidence in myself, but even now im still working on other aspects of my confidence.
Confidence = self esteem = self respect
self respect = recognizing your own strengths, realizing your weaknesses and working on them.
you gain self respect by realizing who it is you are and who it is you want to be and striving to be who you want to be every day. Look at it this way, if there's something about me that I dont like, whether that be my intelligence, my social skills, my weight, my physique, whatever, and I work on it every day without fail I will eventually notice myself getting closer to that goal and the respect I hold for myself will increase. it's pretty easy in actuality.
by this I don't just mean "Go gym lol ez", although if what you dont like about yourself is truly your physique yes the gym will help. if you don't like the way you Are and you're able to recognize what exactly it is you don't like about yourself it becomes obvious what you have to work on to improve. don't feel confident because of social anxiety? go out and make it a mission for yourself to make your presence known and to be comfortable in the knowledge that other people are perceiving you. tiny stuff like this is how it starts and it always snowballs if you keep it up. Hope that helps
How old are you? I have a lot to say in this topic. That used to be a big problem in my life when i was younger. I could give advice
Being better than others in things, like being smarter or wiser or stronger or kinder or better looking or whatever.
you can probably flip ur life around just by quitting somehting called vlr
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