Friend wants to hang out but I want to play Val

I have a friend that I’ve known since we were 5 years old. When we were kids we would hang out every weekend with a few other kids. Then we went to the same high school and we hung out almost every day. After school, a few of us would usually go eat and then go back to his house to hang out some more.

One of my friend’s favorite things to do is watch movies, and he loves having friends over to watch movies.

I’m a grown adult now with a job, and honestly it just feels old going to his place and hanging out. Last Saturday night, he asked me to come over to watch a movie, but I just wanted to stay home and play Valorant. I don’t even like watching movies that much.

Also, we usually get dinner or lunch every week, so I do see him frequently. I just don’t want to hang out as much as I did when I was younger.

Basically the only person I would want to hang out a lot with would be my future girlfriend lol. I’m just feeling a bit smothered, and am feeling guilty for choosing to play Valorant over hanging out with my friend all the time. Anyone have any tips?

friends are temporary, rank lasts forever

It's totally understandable to feel this way as friendships evolve over time. Here are some tips:

Communicate: Have an honest conversation with your friend. Let them know that you value the friendship but that you also need some personal time to pursue your interests.

Set Boundaries: You don't have to attend every movie night. Maybe suggest alternating plans or having specific days for hanging out.

Suggest New Activities: If you want to maintain the friendship but not necessarily through movie nights, propose different activities you both might enjoy. This can help diversify your time together.

Quality Over Quantity: Emphasize the importance of the time you do spend together. Make those moments count by being present and engaged.

Reevaluate Priorities: It's okay for priorities to shift as life changes. You're not obligated to maintain the same level of closeness you had when you were younger.

Manage Guilt: Don't beat yourself up for wanting personal time. It's natural to have your own interests and priorities.

Remember, healthy boundaries in friendships are crucial for personal well-being and the longevity of the relationship.

just tell him that you don't feel like it when you don't, but you should go every 2 weeks or so to maintain the friendship if you value it
you'll get bored of valorant in a few years AT MOST while your friend may be with you for a far longer time

Just ask him if he would like to play val with you
Playing valo with your friends is also fun and can create memories

Let him know you are going for asce 2 this act and if he wants to join he can. I think you are overthinking it.

how is this even a question

Jokes aside, I am being serious here. if u have not had any kind of connections with ur friends for a long time, then get along with them again becoz especially if ur not an aspiring pro player, then its better to get socialized more if u r doing ur high school. Even pro players find some time for themselves for spending time with their family and friends

me waa waa the goo gaa, the himmy dingle no do the mingle tingle me wanty : ( b
ut me the good person nice think guy so what do???

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LOL

Bro just be honest with your friends

He wanted to Netflix and chill

how ab u just let him know that movie night isnt ur thing anymore...gaming might not be his. find something u both like to do and if nothing still... idk what to tell u. friendships arent relationships. compromises arent hard and both being able to understand each others side is important. if u both dont wanna compromise then yall obiv dont wanna be friends.