Need advice on how to not be overprotective. I got a baby daughter.
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not a dad or a parent at all but I think that's the mindset to have. you need to let your kid grow up by themselves without holding her hand the whole time in order to develop into a proper adult. as long as you have a good and open relationship with her where you accept her for what she becomes due to that, she's going to come to you for consultation and you can use that to steer her into the right direction if you think she's really gone off the deep end.
again, i am not a parent lol, but this seems to be a good approach to me and from the other parents that I've met who i think have done a good job with their kids as well as talking to people about their own parents.
im 17 a guy not a father but if i had to give an advice from my experience (my parents are really overprotective cuz growing up i was really weak) just remember that she is although your daughter but someone who wants to go out in the world and explore stuff just like u did not allowing her to do that might hinder her social and mental growth..
define a strong set of values that your daughter will have in the back of his mind when you let her go to the real world. Understand that she will fall and rise and will make the same mistakes that everybody commits eventually, she will learn from that. You are an amazing father if your're worried about this on an early stage. Good Luck!
So many of my friends parents were and still are strict, and most of those friends dont like their parents. I understand you would want to protect your kid, so instead of locking them away from the world, teach them about it and how to move around in it bc if kids want to explore the world, i promise you they will find a way
Can't have kids, but i have couple of friends who are already parents. I think you have the right kind of mindset, knowing that you have to let her aslo take her own decisions (but also is right to try to discipline her). Just keep in mind that everyone goes through of a rebellious phase (because of our brain developing) so dont take it too personal when that happens.
Being young means doing dumb things, they will do it regardless, the only difference is if you know about it.
Let her experiment in a controlled setting where the stakes are lower;
her learning how much she can drink is better learning with you at home then for the first time at a house party with random guys. or her having a boyfriend is better learnt when she is younger and the stakes are much lower then when shes dating a older man
im not dad, but based on my +16 years of life with my parents i suggest you to at first trust on your child, my parents are kinda overprotective, and i never went out to drink, because to be honest i think im more mature than the people with my same age, if you believe/trust on him first, he will feel more free and he will not make bad things because he knows you trust on him, thats what i think now.
In your case, you daughter is younger (congrats btw i hope she grows up happy) so you should just take care of her but not at a extreme level, let her investigate the area if you go to a park, let her touch things, feel the contact and texture...
Not too sure if this will do something to you but i was just giving you my POV because im younger, that's it.
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