Honestly, I'm just happy that I have made it through a really hard period in my life.

A year ago, I was severely depressed, failed out of a military college, forced to move across the country away from my closest friends to live with my homophobic family. Now I am back getting good grades at a different college, I'm in a better place mentally and back in therapy, and have made new friends, and I'm working full time. My happiness comes from knowing how far I have come from those dark times, and it gives me hope that I can continue moving in a positive direction in my future :>

This year, I want to re-strengthen my relationships with my friends that live across the country bc I miss them so fucking much. I also want to become closer with my new friends. Hopefully, conquering my anxiety issues in therapy will help me achieve both of these things.

I hope that every vlr user can find something in their life that makes them happy, no matter how small it is, and focus on it until they have more positive things around them. For a bit, all that kept me going was a strawberry smoothie from Starbucks and Cinnamon twists from Dominos. All that matters is I kept going :> Wish you all a happier 2023

Who is irredeemable? just put the spoiler shit on it

Nooooooo Shownu is a fan of the same team as me :( I need to self-reflect

I want to:
work out with weights or running 3 times a week.
Update my planner once a week to stay organized with school and work
Find new, fun things and places to experience with my friends once a month
Stay in contact with my friends across the country :>

Honestly reading these opinions is so depressing to me like how do these people live in our society and believe in these kinds of things? I forget so easily that misogynistic, hateful people exist AND truly believe that they are right because my little bubble isn't like that. Maybe I should take a break from vlr...

Also how is this guy just calling all therapists losers and unmanly but completely fine taking advice from an incel influencer askakfkskfdl I just can't

Gender roles are outdated, sorry. Men can provide for women and women can provide for men and each can provide for themselves and each of these situations can be successful dynamics. And I'm sorry but no, women are not your belonging and a relationship between a man and a woman should NEVER resemble a parent- child relationship wtf. Children depend on their parents out of necessity, as they are unable to provide for themselves mentally, physically, and emotionally. Adult men and women are completely competent on their own and should never be treated like a "belonging"; that is demeaning and disrespectful to women as they are not lesser than men in any shape or form.

And Tate having "multiple chicks" does not mean he respects and cares about women; if anything it implies the opposite. And I agree that I lead a different life than Andrew Tate. I 100% believe that mine is better and more fulfilling than his and that I am much happier and spread more happiness to other people :> I would never want to be like him

I don't "follow" a therapist. I listen critically to what they have to say because they are professionally trained to solve emotional and mental problems for people. A therapist isn't always going to be right, but they can provide insight and knowledge into your problems that you that do not have. I choose to look for advice from people with knowledge in their subject area and strong morals. Andrew Tate has neither of those.

Therapists cannot prescribe medication for you or diagnose you. Only psychologists in particular states and psychiatrists can do that. Maybe know what you are talking about before you spew your conspiracy theories about how mental health professionals want to "keep you in your shit life" :)

You just compared Andrew fucking Tate to JESUS and MARTIN LUTHER KING???? This is a new level bro

If ur depressed, struggle with self-confidence and self-respect, GO SEE A THERAPIST. You know, the people actually trained and licensed to help you with all of those things. But no, you suggest listening to Tate is the key to your problems. Ok.

Maybe he should care for all women too instead of trafficking them or calling them the property of their boyfriends :) The only good news for you is that no Tate fanboys are over the age of 18 so you still have a chance for your brain to develop out of this incel phase! Good luck!

Bro you know Tate doesn't care about you right? At least have a parasocial relationship with a good person 💀

Benkai can't be a rising star when he's already established

Welcome to every rich company ever that still pays their employees like shit. Not just an esport thing

How am I the first American here? Anyways I would say Disney World/Disneyland (even though it isn't uniquely American whatever), the Mall of America, or the Grand Canyon are cool places. However MOST IMPORTANTLY, avoid the South and the Midwest at all costs

It's not about what Americans think. This is normal in America, it's just the reality

Everyone mad at this is mistaking this ad as "promoting obesity" when it is really promoting clothes for people with obesity. People that are obese still want to look good and they still have to wear clothes. So of course they will run ads with plus size models to cater towards that audience.

Skin care is somewhat related to beauty. You saying that every person you have ever met has called you gorgeous is not relevant information and kind of makes you seem arrogant.

What did the first part have to do with skincare 💀

Love that for you!

For me it's Honey BBQ Fritos

At least you save money! I spent a good bit of money buying gifts and now I will be regretting that for a couple of paychecks

Curious to know what kind of gifts you all got! Which one was your favorite?

Lorde
Nicki Minaj
P!nk
Lady Gaga
Kid Cudi

I am no expert on his case but wasn't he found not guilty? Not saying he didn't do anything but if it wasn't proven then I don't think he can get permanently punished for it.

I thought you were talking about vectors in calculus for a second I was gonna lose it

Bro what the fuck are you saying 💀💀 The stuff you say about marriage doesn't make any sense. The concept of marriage deeply represses women far more than men. Firstly, marriage discourages BOTH genders from going around fucking strangers, NOT just men. In (at least American) wedding ceremonies, women are "given" away by their fathers because they were once viewed as property and the idiotic tradition is still used in present day. There is no plausible argument you could use to argue that marriage represses men more than women, as women have historically had FAR less rights in marriage than men have.

Yes to the Percy Jackson I still don't understand why the gays were so drawn to it but here we are. I've never had super negative experiences with the church, but my spirituality has definitely struggled with the traditional Christian view that I can't be a good Christian and gay. Still figuring it out I suppose :/

Gold 3 but I haven't played in 6 months

You sound like my best friend irl! The Catholic church drove him away from God through very traumatic experiences bc he is gay.
Also, the hold that Percy Jackson and the Olympian deities had on me in middle school...let's just say I understand

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#36, you got beat to it

that's really interesting, I have never heard of Arceism!

Yea that's actually fucked up

You believe in heaven but it's not a reason to follow Christianity?

Wdym by church tax? Like tithing or no?

Just curious as to how many religious people are on vlr / what kinds of religions are represented. This is NOT a place to shit on other religions I just wanna know personal beliefs :>

I believe in Christianity

People like you are so annoying lmfao you insult people by insinuating that they are weird and fucked up and then claim "I was doing it to help you" like I didn't ask for your help and you didn't even help me.

Sure, most people masturbate because they are horny, but there are a number of depressed people (that I have personally talked to) that do it when they are feeling particularly bad. No, it doesn't help with depression in the long run but it does make you feel something other than sadness for a bit. I'm not "putting my weirdness on other people" I'm just talking about why I personally would like to masturbate less

POV: You think every mod is on vlr for 24 hours a day

The answer is a lot of people...and thank you judging me and recommending me something I already have lmfao

Joining today :>

And for those asking what the benefits are, personally I tend to masturbate more frequently when I am depressed or spiraling in order to cope with the negative feelings. It would be way more healthy for me to deal with negative feelings with regular coping mechanisms instead, so that's why I'm doing it

This doesn't make sense lmao... You call them great and trash in the same sentence. Great players miss penalties all the time. Yes, you all have the right to call them trash but it's stupid negativity that is unnecessary.

I feel like we aren't talking about the same thing lmao...my only point was that the France team as a whole is not trash like the poster said

You bringing up Camavinga and not Upamecano tells me everything I need to know

He played great but the substitutes allowed him to do that. In the first half, he was a ghost. So put some respect on the rest of the team for giving him the opportunity to display his greatness

Mbappe did but the team as a whole is very good. Don't know why those two ideas can't coexist

Respect to Mbappe but no way you call their team dogshit 💀

So do they not celebrate the holiday at all? I know that aren't Christians that celebrate but idk about Japanese culture

we love self-awareness !!

I think it's more about what you're implying