AYA (Ask You All) [Relationship]

I kinda wanna get a few different takes on this.

So… I’ve been doing pretty well lately. I’m generally happy with how things are going, nothing major to complain about. But at the same time, I keep feeling a bit lost. Empty, maybe?

I’m honestly okay with being single. I enjoy the freedom and peace of it. But sometimes, when I see my close friends finding their person, I can’t help but feel a little jealous. Like, I kinda miss that feeling of being with someone who really gets you.

The thing is, most of my past relationships didn’t last long. I tend to lose feelings or get bored pretty easily once the initial excitement fades. And that makes me question whether I’m even capable of maintaining something long-term.

What scares me the most is that I don’t want to hurt anyone. Yeah, maybe I lose interest too fast sometimes, but it’s never intentional. I don’t want someone who could’ve been my partner to end up getting hurt just because I couldn’t keep the relationship steady.

Idk, it’s weird. I’m happy, but also not. I feel like I should maybe talk to a professional about this, just to figure out what’s really going on with me.

don't get into a relationship purely for the sake of getting into it. take your time and improve yourself both mentally and physically until you feel like youre ready to have someone else in your life. usually the right person just comes along into your life without you really trying to look for them

get bored pretty easily once the initial excitement fades

ipad kid ahh

worst place to ask this imo

VLR and Relationships do not belong, try somewhere else.

#2 is a great take

If you are good with being single then stay single it's worse to be in a relationship for the sake of it than just directly rejecting a person

Me personally after I started dating my girlfriend a lot of aspects in life went up. I started feeling like waking up to check texts, felt more active, etc.
I’ve also had friends however whose mental health went down after getting in a relationship, and eventually swung back up
after breaking up.

Bottom line, it really depends on how the relationship goes, there’s no way to predict how it’s going to turn out for either you or your partner. You have to be prepared to be committed tho, otherwise it won’t work out, like #2 was saying.

Jealousy in times like these is totally understandable, but (I'm guessing) that you're still rather young. You have a long life ahead of you, so you should take it one step at a time. If you lose interest in someone, that's simply unfortunate. Personally, I believe that dating to marry is a positive thing, and is what everyone should at least somewhat seek out in life. Just have patience, both in finding a partner, as well as in your partner when you eventually find one. Hope that helps to some degree!

The emptiness is always there when you are single and when you see your friends having someone they love it gives you the same jealous feeling of having someone special in your life as well

love no one
trust no one
the only one worth it is garlic bread (im Asexual)