i have played a lot of multiplayer games, i would say 1 in about 30+ matches would i face a teammate that is racist, sexist, or mean. It might be a differnce of region and play time but i unironically meet nice people who actually enjoy the game.
Obv you are going to hear more about people banned for hacking than insulting women, people who hack are usually higher elo and get called out by streamers and people with a large following so when banned you will hear about it. In my own personal experience, most misogyny and sexism comes from lower elo players who come from games that are male dominated (cs cod ect) rather than the fucking ascendant player who spends all his time playing swiftplay