lack of confidence

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Foxym

this is a personal issue for me and i dont know how i can get out of my slump
i seem to subconsciously compare myself with my previous results and if i dont perform to my own expectations i lose all of my focus, self-confidence and motivation

i tried talking to others about it but i dont quite know how to express it, and if i manage to do it the response i often get is:
"you are a good kid, your grades are good, you are smart, and you are creative"
which doesnt help me with the underlying issue of me comparing myself to my previous results subconsciously

telling me to "stop" isnt going to work since its subconsciously

idk why im going to vlr to rant about this issue, you guys have your own issues, its just that i feel hopeless at this very moment

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BabyWizard

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Ok but what if you tried doing something really really hard, almost impossible for you, and then came back to regular stuff? This is just a thought not advice

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Foxym

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i dont know, i wasnt able to get over my mental block yet, i mean just look at my tracker, no sign of confidence
https://tracker.gg/valorant/profile/riot/GX%20FOXYM%23ntrly/overview?platform=pc&playlist=competitive&season=4c4b8cff-43eb-13d3-8f14-96b783c90cd2

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BabyWizard

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Well... since you cant stop comparing, have you tried consistent practice? Something to keep you constantly improving?

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I_LOVE_LESS

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okay so basically the way i get out of slumps in valorant is i just stop looking at the stats and just focus on the moment, might help with what you're going through

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BabyWizard

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telling me to "stop" isnt going to work since its subconsciously

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I_LOVE_LESS

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ur always gonna be thinking about stats if u keep checking them. you have to stop checking to stop thinking about them

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Foxym

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its the fact that i compare myself to my previous self
my mind is constantly saying:
"I know im better than that, so why am i doing so bad"

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delighted

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just don't compare urself or just take a break from the game or play overwatch/cs

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I_LOVE_LESS

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i do that shit a lot too, but recently i just started trying to literally play exactly like Less in my ranked games, and im a lot more confident now and i can excuse whiffs or mistakes as "i'm changing my style im just not used to it yet". maybe try emulating a different style

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Foxym

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whos?
i dont have a player i look up to
my sens is ultra low (1600dpi 0.08 sens)
and my playstyle isnt consistent throughout maps

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delighted

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take a page from invy

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I_LOVE_LESS

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i used to play that sens, im now on flor's sens (.175 1600) and honestly the swap has seemed worth it, my ceiling is so much higher than it was when i was playing ultra low sens (0.05-0.08 range). might be worth the swap and if you dont have a player you look up to, just try Less. he has a very unique movement and aim style and its honestly not hard to start emulating

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delighted

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lowk if flor's sens are helping maybe flor really is that good mechanically

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I_LOVE_LESS

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she is that good mechanically, i've played with her and the mechs gap was absurd

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delighted

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how big + what does she even do to have that kind of mechanics (aka what did u notice that she does that not a lot of people do)

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I_LOVE_LESS

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its not like Less where he has a different style or a signature aim style, she's just fucking absurdly aim talented, her raw aim is all i see. obviously her movement is very high level since she's a pro player but her aim is on another level

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delighted

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must have played quake or smth

continue thread →

#20

Foxym

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i might try it, but as thinks stand right now, my confidence is easily shatter able

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I_LOVE_LESS

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just try it out in deathmatches until you start owning
then take it to ranked and just play to learn. you dont need to instantly start dropping 30 bombs you just need to keep learning with every game you play

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Foxym

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and if my confidence shatters i should take a minute to regain it after the match
be it running, range, pondering, vod reviewing.
these are mental notes i was able to take away from this thread

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I_LOVE_LESS

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just spam deathmatches honestly. the advice i've gotten from pro players are: "deathmatch for 8 hours a day" "you just gotta know yourself, #inspirational" lowkey life changing

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BabyWizard

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Didnt flor say that she used to spam hours of dm at first?

continue thread →

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malT-T

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when im in a being unhelpful competition and my opponent is i love less

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I_LOVE_LESS

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i gave like 10 comments of advice from myself and from pro players, idk what more u want from me

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angel98

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Forget about stats, even when you are playing well

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rookister

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When I set some expectations on myself and fail to meet them, I simply take a small walk and 'talk to myself' in my head. I try to come up with the good things that came out of it.
Like, sure, I didn't get that A I so desperately wanted or that things didn't exactly go like I wanted them to... But, hey, I at least learned something from this that I shouldn't do this in the future, or expect this of others or life in general. I guess I kind of try to talk to myself (schizo, I know) as if there is a seprate, desperate for success, entity inside of me.

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for valorant try changing your sensitivty, agents, settings, try aim training. Some of these things wont make u better but ull have a feeling like it made u better and will let u focuse more yk plus you'll have more confidence especially if you tried aim training for the first time
i have same problem as you and thats what I do and it helps me for some period of time

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TheFumbler

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Im pretty sure he is not talking in context of valorant.

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Kirya

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it does look like in context of valorant if you read his other replies in this thread

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Foxym

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im talking in context of everything i do

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Kirya

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nobody can help you with that though because we dont know your issues
if your confidence is low irl you definitely have some borderline issues and should get that checked
also for valorant try privating your tracker

#40

sawrice

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Delete tracker.gg and block the website on your wifi. Thank me later