Last day of vacation and I'm WASTEDDDDDDDDDDD. I'm looking for advice and shit because I've always been pretty good at getting a girls attention or even starting to date them but I'm never able to make something last. I'm 19 and have had like 20 partners, but none have lasted over a month and a half. What am I doing wrong homies? Additionally if anyone wants advice or suggestions on how to get a girls attention or getting into a relationship I'm really good at that and may help potentially. Idk feeling bummed but also thankful for the kindness many people in this community have shown
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take your time. getting someone's attention is a great start but spend time with them to make sure you're actually a good fit before starting anything serious. if you want something long-lasting, make sure it's someone you actually want to be with long-term and who you're willing to make something long-term work with. know your limits, know your boundaries, make sure they respect those and make sure you respect theirs, then just take your time :)
if u want someone for long term relationship do not pick someone with that high body count for sure, 1-3 at max.
girls are way more emotional and carries too many traumas from past compared to man, even some woman who had 1-2 partners and if her old relationship lasted a long time, she will probably carry a lot of things(traumas or not) and will bring them to you.
if you're rich enough you can have a privilege to find someone with 0 body count, but kinda hard in USA i guess.
for dating thats not really important, issue is if you want long term since someone can carry traumas from past and throw them at you, as I said, its more like having less chance of this happening, still not 100% safe at all.
as people always says you can only know someone when you start living together with them, and you don't want to have this problem when you're already living together lol.
its more like "defense mechanism" which can reduce your troubles in the future.
well you might not be picky but there are still things to think about. look back on around the time some of your prev relationships ended and think about why that happened, is there something you need to work on or something about your partner you should avoid next time? like maybe they were too clingy or they didnt want to spend time with you at all, things like that. just dont be afraid to keep putting yourself out there and learning, one day you'll figure out what works for you. most of us here are still young (even 19-20 is still v young), there's nothing wrong with figuring things out
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