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Guys I had a fight with my uncle's brother just rn

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botfragger432

So today, we had a midnight plan to somewhere else far away from my home with two of my older and younger uncle's son. But I had to cancel the plan as my parents didn't gave permission at the very last moment. When I informed about it, one of my brother younger than me got so toxic that I kind off blocked his contact and social media rn. I am so fucking pissed rn that I won't be able to look at him the same way I used to. I told him that I will never participate in his lifetime personal or health problem ever. That guy is so young, yet he got toxic against his own older brother. I want to ask if I should talk him to again or help him when he need me the most even if I don't want to?

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Clucker
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Trying to decypher this message rn

#3
botfragger432
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Nah bro was mad af, I literally know him well than anyone else. I could easily decipher his word and tell if he's serious or not !

#10
K4ziuHa
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any luck?
still dont even know who hes talking about

#11
K4ziuHa
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maybe if i put this message into chatgpt?
with this prompt:
decypher this message (fix all the mistakes OP is retarded):
So today, we had a midnight plan to somewhere else far away from my home with two of my older and younger uncle's son. But I had to cancel the plan as my parents didn't gave permission at the very last moment. When I informed about it, one of my brother younger than me got so toxic that I kind off blocked his contact and social media rn. I am so fucking pissed rn that I won't be able to look at him the same way I used to. I told him that I will never participate in his lifetime personal or health problem ever. That guy is so young, yet he got toxic against his own older brother. I want to ask if I should talk him to again or help him when he need me the most even if I don't want to?
chatgpt spew this out:
So today, we had a plan to go somewhere far from home at midnight with two of my cousins, one older and one younger. However, I had to cancel the plan because my parents didn’t give me permission at the last minute. When I told them about it, my younger cousin got so upset that he became really toxic. I ended up blocking his contact and social media right away. I’m so pissed off right now that I don’t think I’ll be able to look at him the same way again. I told him that I will never help him with any personal or health problems in the future. He’s so young, yet he acted so toxic toward his older brother. Now, I’m wondering if I should talk to him again or help him when he needs me, even though I really don’t want to.

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yellow_donkey
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da vinci code ahh message

#4
Demon1_The_GOAT
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No idea what I just read. Isn't your uncle's brother also your uncle?

#5
botfragger432
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Sorry my bad. It should have been uncle's son. I was too focused on my emotions

#6
Demon1_The_GOAT
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So its your cousin. If hes a close family member to you, just forgive him.

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botfragger432
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Yaa I think I will forgive him, but not now. He needs to understand his consequences for having such toxic nature and I will only forgive if he request me to do so.

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saynotoherpes
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what does toxic even mean, assuming you are someone in their teens he would be around 15 and I would assume them to be a bit bitchy at that age, your response seems to be stupid and he is your family

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botfragger432
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Not 15, like between 13-14 year old, but still he needs to respect his older brother. Like I can't say what he said here in vlr but I will only forgive him if he request me to do so !!

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I think what he needs is a good ol beatin

#12
K4ziuHa
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also bro youre like 16 max
get out

#13
botfragger432
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You r like 16 🤡
Bro I am almost 19 by next February

#15
K4ziuHa
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why would you need permission bud
making a fool from yourself 🤡

#18
botfragger432
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Making a fool out of yourself. Bro I ain't like you. I first of all asks my parents whenever I go out. Ig you don't even ask permission from your parent cause you are already a downgrade to your parents. And I think your parents were already cooked by your behaviour.

#38
Coures
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Indians and being dependent on their shitty social class structures and parents. what else is new 🤷

most kids your age in any developed country already have jobs

#41
botfragger432
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Bro think every Indian relay on their social class structure. Bro in our state, we don't have any kind of social structure, and idk what exactly you were talkin bout but yeah I do have a temporary job earning enough to pay my fees on time. You guys are the type of people who will make stereotypes by lookin at any meme without any external knowledge.

#17
ortuh
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youre 18 but youre crying about a 12 year old being rude to you after your parents didnt give you permission to go out? somethings not adding up lmao

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botfragger432
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My lil Bro literally said he will try to slash and kill me with a sword through dm.Idk if there is a culture like that in UK or EU, but it's a big noo to say such word and threat against older brother. We respect our elderly one.

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And you’re taking him seriously?
I would just laugh at him he 14 at the end of the day

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botfragger432
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If you were Asian, you would have realized how big of a mistake he did. His harsh claim is not that great. Moreover, my cousin isn't that of a good character due to his toxic friends. I think I need to fix him before he goes way too far !!

#30
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I see ig Asian culture is a little different from ours
I say you just find the right moment have a talk with him and try to convince him that his friends are no good

#32
botfragger432
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Yeah, need to do that ig. Anyway thanks for your tip !!

#14
lordooohyeaa
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who cares

#16
K4ziuHa
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lol

#20
cloudberry
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You should talk to him about this, but DEFINITELY not now. Maybe not tomorrow, either.

These things happen, man. But the most important thing you can do is let things cool down before you take action. Even if you're in the right, all it'll do is make everyone more mad. Wait a few days, take your time, and then have that conversation

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botfragger432
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Thanks bud, one fucker above me thinks he knows more bout me than myself. But thanks for your kind word. As he's my cousin, I will try not to have a bad relation with him although he needs to realise and regret his decision for saying such harsh words against elder !!

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yellow_donkey
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Also, don't keep it in your mind or heart for too long after the conversation in the future, regardless of how it goes.

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botfragger432
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Yep, but I will do nothin and speak to him unless until he asks me for forgiveness or feeling guilty and say sorry for that behaviour.

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yellow_donkey
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I don't know how old you are to call him a young boy, but like Cloudberry said, go have a conversation after a few days or weeks. Like it could be culture diff but don't approach this as "elder schooling kid". To him, you ain't his parents or anything. extremely unprofessional against an elder, sure but just be on the same level and approach him. But ease up man, you don't have to cut him off from socials out of spite.

tldr; don't approach him with "I'm older than you so I will teach you how to be respectful", go up to him as a friend and have a proper conversation. but you gotta know how to control your anger too. Because wtv you wrote were super aggressive

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cloudberry
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I vouch for this

#44
botfragger432
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Aight, I won't say anything stupid like that tho I am your elder you need to realise what you said were disrespectful. I will try not to approach unless and until he came to me and request me whatever he said were wrong.

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Well, you might be waiting a long time then cause atleast when I was that age, I don't think I ever said sorry for anything. But after few days if he starts talking normally then it's better to just forget that it happened and move on because chances are he knows what he said was wrong but doesn't know how to say it to you

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botfragger432
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I think so but although my home is far away from his house. We usually met each others on occasion or family stuff like 1-2 times in a month. So I think it will take a long time for both me and him to reach each others.

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cloudberry
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I'm not entirely sure how your system works, but the way I see it, it would be more effective to approach it as a friend. Instead of scolding him and asking him to repent, it might be a better idea to show him you understand where he was coming from ("I get you were upset", etc.) and how his reaction affected you. Just thought I'd chip in my two cents

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botfragger432
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Thanks man, but still that kind of attitude is dangerous for such a young boy. Will try not to teach him but try to make him understand what he said was extremely unprofessional against an elder !!

#34
K4ziuHa
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hes not your cousin hes ''your uncle's brother''

#25
yellow_donkey
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^ this.

#33
ParisVLR
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If you can’t spell/write correctly at 19, it might be time to repeat a year.

#35
K4ziuHa
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W

#37
uwukitten
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cook that fraud

#40
botfragger432
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I speak English cause it's the only language you know. We are not the same.

#42
IHaveAnswers
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Imo, you can just tell your uncle what he said to you and they will take care of it no?
But again I also said some outrageous stuff when I was 12-13 so it might just be an age thing but I am a changed person now

#46
botfragger432
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If my uncle knows what he said to me will make the matter even worse. I got my contact off from him although I feel responsible for that stuff still he needs to watch his mouth. I or myself have never seen someone badmouthing to elders in my entire family lineage, so that's why ig it felt so heartbroken for a guy who's 19 by four month from now.

#47
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It's fine. I would recommend not blocking him off completely but just letting the heat cool down, I remember I was also very hot headed at that age

#50
IHaveAnswers
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Also, as many have mentioned above, approach him as friend not an elder. Having a good impression on him makes communication easier

#53
botfragger432
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Yeah I always used to have conversation with him as my closest friend not as a cousin. I felt he was my closest friend ever. But his actions were indeed against me made my heart drown. I think I have known enough thanks to you,cloudberry and yellow_donkey. You guys gave me enough tips. All I know is that approaching him will take longer than ever !! Have a good day mate

#43
Tsikhamani
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He's your cousin and he might be expecting a lot from you and when you said him that you won't join them that thing triggered him to be toxic and do talk to him not now but after some months

#49
luckypleb
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vlr actually trying to help this retard lol so wholesome

#51
IHaveAnswers
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Rude

#52
botfragger432
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okay mb, mr. Genius 🤓

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