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I am happier without friends.

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#1
cohnr

VLR is definitely not the place to say this but it is the only forum I use so fuck it.

Always had trouble making friends and spent the first decade of my life without any. I feel like I am a bit of an odd person and I am not able to hold conversations so I set it down to that. Finally got friends and felt I fit in. Recently though, I've realized they really do not give a fuck about me. They don't invite me anywhere. They don't talk to me unless I talk to them. They don't listen to me when I speak. These are people I grew up with and went to school with, but as soon as school ended for me and I went on my own way, they don't care. They make no effort to talk to me or reach out to me in any way.

With all of that, I realized I am genuinely more happy when I am alone. If people will treat me like that, it is better to be alone than have "friends" who want nothing to do with me.

#2
xD1LL4N
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When you find happiness when being alone, you'll never feel lonely.

You do you brother :)

#3
proestnoobop
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I can totally feel you 🥺

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kaesra
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you're mixing with the wrong group of friends bro being alone gets very depressive after awhile

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Rebellion2408
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We both are in the same both I guess bro. I am happy that you are happy being with yourself. Hope you always stay happy bro. I know being alone is tough. I'm in my early 20s and it's tough. I don't know how to mingle with others, only became worse when my best friends left me. I feel lonely but I got no choice man have to keep a smiling face and do my job that is to study and game nothing else to do now. I hope you find happiness in whatever decision you take man it will always be good :)

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UnrivaleD
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firstly may i ask how old are you now? i someone who is in his mid twentees, my advice for you to not let some bad apples ruin your social life, there is good people out there. sometimes its not the whole world who is bad mby you have some things that you yourself need to work on so can be a good company for others, some people were emotionally neglected in their childhood so they develop this clingy personality that ppl tend to avoid , this is only one example from many , avoiding the problem which is not fulfiling your social needs isnt the solution

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UnrivaleD
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im here if u wanna talk about it you can private msg me, cuz ive been there, dont just isolate yourself from the world, we are social creatures by nature and if we dont fulfil this need we gonna suffer in some way or another, like i said i was just like u and bcz i avoided the problem that i have bad social skills i stayed like that , and mby like me you will meet someone you love and you wont have the necessary skills to express your love to him or her

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cohnr
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Thanks man. I am 19 and my social skills are awful due to pretty severe anxiety. I've been working on it for a couple of years and honestly I think taking a few months to collect myself and understand myself would be better because I would've depended on my so called friends a lot. Your words mean a lot to me

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UnrivaleD
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np man i have anxiety too , my advice for you is so find a therapist or a really good mental coach, bcz a therapist will speed up the improvment in your life tremendously, its not your fault that you dont have social skills, its our envirement we grew in that decide if we are good or not in term of social skill, and be kind and understanding for yourself cuz it comes along way

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Rebellion2408
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Thanks man much helpful tips :)

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UnrivaleD
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🥰🥰🥰

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JiangLi
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how u giving up after just one group of people you meet ? U wnt to get depressed or wht . even for some1 who has lots of friends theres like 4-5 people at best who'll be your real friends. Find a hobby u like like an outdoor game or smthg , you will find people with similar interests fast

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soraol
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True friend is hard to find.
They don't treat you sincerely,so they don't deserve your friendship.
I believe you will have a true friend one day.
There is a saying in China that a friend in need is a friend indeed(患难见真情)
Only those who stand by your side and support you when you are in trouble are your true friends.
The rest of these untested friends are not important.

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BackoxyXD
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All vlrgg users are same bro dont worry

#15
WACC
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Recently though, I've realized they really do not give a fuck about me. They don't invite me anywhere.

friendship is relationship, u gotta bring something to the table if u want people to treat u with respect

people wont like u for no reason just because they knew u for a long time, this is real life and everyone learns this the hard way

work on yourself, get your money up or get your soft skills up, become a person that people enjoy hanging around, and forge meaningful long lasting relationships

#16
NG1nS
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believe me you just didn't find the right friends, i hope you never stop trying bcz having friends is really important in life
wishing u the best my friend

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yoboikingkong
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"how to win friends and influence people" i recommend you this book. the first few chapters may seem too obvious, and you may think the book is useless, but eventually you'll realize how good the points in this book are. you may not want to make friends for now, but the skills this book will teach you will help you overcome your weaknesses like your inability to hold conversations with people. also dont ever think you are happy alone, you just need to find the right people, they dont have to be many, they dont have to come soon. have patience and keep working on yourself!

#18
hekzy
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Same but with w*men

#19
Adi69LassiSeller
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Bro woke up and chose to speak nothing but faxx o7
Personally for me only 2/18 of my best school childhood friends treated me like this, I still got 16 friends who genuinely care about me and call me every weekend but I don't pickup bcuz I got priorities (playing val) 💀🗿🗿🗿

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SigmaMale
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Im in the same boat as you but I'm not any happier

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